Is it rebound or REAL?
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Is it rebound or REAL?
| Wed, 02-04-2004 - 4:33pm |
I'm new at this, so, bear with me.
About 3 months ago, the love of my life left me because he was scared of a relationship, scared to get hurt. Well, his best friend comforted me. One thing led to another, and now he's saying he loves me. I feel great things for him, but there is one problem. He's engaged. When guy #1 found out about me and his friend through guy #2's fiance, he was mad. However, I didn't care any longer about guy #1's feelings, I was more concerned about guy #2's feelings. What do I do? Should I wait it out to see if guy #2 is being honest when he says he wants to leave his fiance, or should I get out of the whole thing? What is love worth? Or is it rebound? or do I just sound desparate?
HELP!!!

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None of this is very much time, in the grand scheme of things, is it? Of course not!
My recommendation would be to step away from ALL of them, for AT LEAST 2 months. If guy #2 "really" loves you, that gives him time to break his engagement, and do some soul searching. IF your thing with him is "for real", it could stand 60 days separation.
If you love something, let it go. If it comes back, it's yours. If it doesn't it never was.
In the meanwhile, the 60 days would give you a little time to re-acquaint yourself with yourself. Get to know yourself out side of the "relationship you". Get to know "independent you" again.
Just my 2 cents... anonymous internet guy that I am...
You've got to take care of you.
Walk away. That is probably best. It is a form of "no contact" that I am so big on. Walk away, and leave this group of people behind. Find new people, do things that interest you, and focus on getting "YOU" right w/ the world.
(Most women I know that find love & happiness found it when they weren't really looking).
JLT, yes, you can do it.
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