It's all state of mind...

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It's all state of mind...
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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 1:37pm

**Warning, reality check follows.

NC since October 2, 2009.

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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 2:21pm

Good Post Gallooklingforlcosure....


I will have to say first I am not necessarily disappointed or disheartened by the ladies breaking NC or temped to do so.

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 2:26pm

Thanks, Gal.
Good Post. Really good post.

How did you change your thinking? Was it automatic after time, or did you have to coach yourself somehow? Did you have a re-thinking/reprogramming mantra or some other magic trick? I am so close, soooo close, to getting to that fork in the road but I keep back sliding -- which for me means getting melancholy, though not so bad as to care to break NC. Still, hurts like hell and is totally counterproductive to healing.

Your advice would be greatly appreciated.

xo
Dee

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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 2:50pm

Dee -


I wish I could offer everyone (including myself) a magic potion that would automatically change our way of thinking.

NC since October 2, 2009.

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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 3:11pm

New Season -


Thanks for the response.

NC since October 2, 2009.

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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 3:26pm

In my mind, the word pathetic means the worst of the worst.

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 3:35pm

Your Awesome!...I too had the benefit of failure soooo many times!...I get it though, if you thought you could help one person by doing right it the first time.

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 3:44pm

Hey, NS -
Omg, you are soooo correct about "pathetic"! That word and my revulsion to it are KEY for me. In fact, this morning in a work meeting, I was making a list of Phrases that I could repeat every time I began to 'choose' to think about xAP in a wistful way, and 'pathetic' jumped off the page and roundhouse kicked me upside the head. That one word kind of says it all, doesn't it?

x!
Dee

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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 3:57pm

Absolutely!!!...I so hope it works for you, too!

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
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Registered: 12-07-2009
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 5:17pm

GLFC,


I have to wait two more weeks to officially honor you "Tweener, " eh? What if I want to do that now? I could really use a new Tweener sidekick immediately, but because it's protocol to make it 3 months, I guess I will have to be patient right along side of you until then. ;-)


Here's one of my favorite poems that reinforces the title

   ~Iddy~ 


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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 10:38pm