It's been a year since D-Day

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It's been a year since D-Day
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Tue, 09-15-2009 - 3:23pm

It has been exactly a year since D-day. What a terrible, awful, mind shattering day that was. A day I never care to repeat. The day HE decided it was a good idea to tell his wife everything. Even thinking about it brings up feelings inside of me that I never want to experience again.


Tynk


no contact means feeling free, not feeling guilty and looking in the mirror and finally, finally&n

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Registered: 04-08-2009
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 3:41pm

Congratulations, Tynk!

You are an incredibly strong woman, and I so appreciated reading your post today. It was very inspirational, and if every woman on this board is not motivated toward absolute No Contact (or at least Limited Contact, if need be) after reading this, I don't know what it would take, really. To end an A with a man who sits 10 feet from you every day would require a GREAT amount of fortitude.

Yours is a testimony of strength and dignity and how affairs rob us of those things . . . but ending and moving forward with NC eventually help us regain them.

Thank you for inspiring me today :) I am not ever tempted to go back or break NC with my ex-creep, but I still have so much to get over in terms of anger and guilt and frustration with myself.

Thanks for encouraging us all.

-Juliette

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Registered: 07-11-2009
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 3:52pm

Wow, congrat's to you.

 

              &n

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Tue, 09-15-2009 - 5:07pm

Tynk,


Wow! I stopped posting approx 2 months ago because I needed a break. Just returned the other day, and now I am so glad I did. Just this post alone makes it all worth the time and effort I put into being CL. The hat just got too heavy, and now I can slip in without too much notice and truly enjoy reading

Messenger

"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."

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Tue, 09-15-2009 - 5:35pm

Tynk,


Congratulations and thank you for a WONDERFUL post --- many on this board needed to hear your perspective one year out.

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Registered: 09-23-2008
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 9:57pm

Messenger,


What a great reply. Thank you so much! I barely come on here anymore and I was wondering what happened to you! Good to see you again.


Never thought I of all people would be called a VET! But here I am. Still standing, still breathing :)


Your words

Tynk


no contact means feeling free, not feeling guilty and looking in the mirror and finally, finally&n

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Registered: 07-20-2009
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 10:17pm
Great post - no doubt all A result in a lot of pain when they end. As a guy talking,
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Tue, 09-15-2009 - 10:59pm

Hi tynk, congratulations!! Wonderful, amazing post, I enjoyed reading every word :)

hugs,

trixie xo



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Registered: 04-04-2009
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 7:01am

Hi Tynkerbell,
I never read a post from you, I think, because I am still a newbie, but I wanted to let you know that I am so ENCOURAGED by your post. Reading it brought tears to my eyes, because I am in a situation similar to yours, and YOU GOT OUT OF IT, although you still have to see the xap every day.

You wrote "There were times I thought the sadness wouldn't go away, the anger would never subside, if I could just get ONE MORE word in, it would fix things. But, it won't and it wouldn't."
That's how it feels for me now. xAP is my neighbor and our children are best friends, I cannot go NC even though I really wish I would NEVER have to see him again.

You also wrote: "I never ever look at him."
This is the thing I have been trying to do as well. I try not to make eye contact with him, I try to avoid looking in his eyes. Is that what you mean?

Thanks again for posting what you wrote. It is extremely helpful for me, especially on a day like today... I needed it.

hugs,
Htgo

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Registered: 07-28-2009
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 5:04pm

Dear Tynk...


one magic pill to stop the madness and that is absolutely without a doubt - No Contact.


Yes that pill is hard to swallow... a little bitter going down, even coughed it up a few times, but once I got it to go down and kept it down its pure magic and so full of vitamin PEACE!


I am only about 8 weeks NC, but im happier then I have been in such a long time and life is good again.


Congrats to you my dear!


L


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Registered: 04-07-2009
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 9:58am

Dear Tynk,


Thank you so much for inspiring those here who are struggling, each to different degrees, to get away from the A and reclaim their lives.