It's over, now what?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2004
It's over, now what?
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Wed, 07-14-2004 - 10:06am
Well, in my last discussion, I said that I didn't care which way it went. Basically, I wanted him to Bleep or get off the pot so to speak. didn't matter, just wanted something to stop. Well, he really did something to surprise me and not in a good way. He said that if I got pregnant, he would want to secretly be part of the child's life. Well, that tells me that everything he was saying is lies. All lies. No intention of leaving, no intention of telling his W the truth. Because of this whole thing that has been going on, people think I have been lying. So, what do I do? I know this board is not in favor of going to the wife, and I even said it was a bad idea. But it would make him the liar, not me. I don't know how else to walk and keep my dignity. What do I do to come out on top?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-02-2004
Wed, 07-14-2004 - 6:12pm
Well i thought orginally just like you , that i would go to the wife. But once i had time to think about it all rationally, i realized that it was my bad judgement that got me into this so i did not go to her. it has not been long at all 2 weeks but i am glad that i didnt, i have spoke to him a couple of times but nothing much just casual conversation. it is better in my case to let things die out quietly and not make more of a scene. and if you tell he will still deny it and they will think you lied anyway.just my thoughts hope this helps.