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| Fri, 10-29-2004 - 3:13pm |
I've been really busy at work, which has been a good thing to keep XMM off my mind. I think I've made great strides in the 13 weeks since I've seen him - 10 weeks since I told him no more and I don't count the NC date anymore (which I see as a good sign).
I went on a girls weekend last Friday and I never thought of him until I went to sleep. This is big progress for me. I actually backed right into a tree a 2 weeks ago because I just couldn't seem to fully concentrate on anything. I'm sure you all can relate.
Anyway, I've noticed that he's not in my head as much - I have blocked him from IM (a few weeks ago) and I don't answer him when he emails questions to me.
I went today for the first time ever to talk to a therapist and I really like her and hopefully she will be able to help me. I talked most, she listened and threw in a couple of things here and there. I see her again next week.
Anyway, I just wanted to share with you all that even though we might slip up now and then - we really can do this. I look forward to the day when I don't think of him in an entire 24 hour period.
Hang in there everyone, it does get better.

Thank you so much for sharing, it's very encouraging to know that some of us are in the same boat. Hanging in there, being strong and feeling better every day. I also have gone several weeks with N/C and I feel like I'm finally enjoying life for the first time in years. Of course I do still miss him and I most likely will for a long time. Funny how miserable we make ourselves for just one small morsel of "feel good" time.
I often try to figure out exactly WHAT it is that I miss about him. He was always non-supportive, sarcastic, he often got a good laugh at my expense and I never felt he showed much respect for me. I guess we did connect on a few levels and the physical chemistry was really good. It's ironic how we often get into these A to fill a "void" but the backlash of the A leaves a huge wounds in our hearts and souls and thus an even larger void than when we started.
Hang in there, we CAN do this!