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It's the right thing
| Mon, 02-04-2013 - 12:22pm |
So, xap has found a few ways to contact me. I have not replied. I'm trying so hard to do the right thing and he just keeps showing up.
I know this is for the best. There is too much anger and hurt in our history to ever make this right. I have to ignore it and keep moving on.
His words today brought me to tears. I do miss him, but not enough to go back. It's still a game with him and I know he'll say almost anything to get a response from me. And then he wins. I can't do it. Please, someone tell me that I'm doing the right thing. Thirteen years is a very long time to just walk away. It's been a really difficult couple of days.
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Blondehigh, thirteen years of what? Hiding out. Waiting for him to choose you. Thirteen years is too long to be anyone's side dish. It's too long to wait on the sidelines and stay hidden so no one finds out that you are his secret lover or that he is yours. Thirteen years is entirely too long to stay in a "relationship" where you are so limited in each other's lives.
Man, he is persistent. It helps to stay the course when we are no longer flatter by their fishing expeditions....because we come to realize it has nothing to do with us, really...it's all about them and what THEY want. It's a game...a challenge to see if he can break you down...get you cave. It's simply disrespectful and shows a total disregard for what YOU need.
And if you did cave, it'd be back to be treated like crap. This guys a stalker, imo.
Stay the course.
((hugs))
Clarity
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"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do." -Eleanor Roosevelt
Yay! Third login try's a charm! I am new here, but since things have been slow and frustrating, I thought I would reply. Yes, you did the right thing! Be strong. I know it is hard. I have had a "blue" day today too. I don't know your story, but 13 years in an affair is a loooooong time. You seem to want peace now. If you contact him, it will only open everything up.
Be strong. It will pass.
Tam