Jaded

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Jaded
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Thu, 03-04-2010 - 12:21pm

I know he must wonder what happened to me. I left so abruptly. I was in his life regularly and then I was gone. No explanation.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
In reply to: empowerment1
Thu, 03-04-2010 - 1:02pm

You had me there for a minute, Ms. E1!! I was thinking, WTF??? Then 1/2 way through reading it I started thinking, "I bet there's going to be one of those E1 story telling endings." Whew! . Glad I was right about that. ;-)


Yep, the similarities of drug addiction and affair addiction is uncanny. There really should be free clinics set up around the world to help men/women who want/need to end them. With the rate of infidelity skyrocketing these days, I wouldn't be surprised if this ever comes to fruition. Heck, they have hotlines for just about every other type of abuse/addiction. Maybe we could start there.

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 08-08-2007
In reply to: empowerment1
Thu, 03-04-2010 - 1:15pm
OMG I know!! I was also like, wtf?
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Registered: 04-04-2009
In reply to: empowerment1
Thu, 03-04-2010 - 2:03pm

Empowerment LOL, I thought: Is she losing the battle? huh? NOW?

So this is a story from a drug addict for real? It sounds so much like us!

Hugs!

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Registered: 08-18-2008
In reply to: empowerment1
Thu, 03-04-2010 - 2:47pm

It was from a true recovery story.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
In reply to: empowerment1
Thu, 03-04-2010 - 3:48pm

Hard to type because my eyes are teared up right now. That was very powerful. I'm stuck on the "is he thinking of me" part because that's where I am right now. Thought I was doing okay, but I think I'll go have myself a little crying jag in the corner of my office right now.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
In reply to: empowerment1
Thu, 03-04-2010 - 4:01pm

Hi Alwayst,


Sorry for your pain. This thread is far deeper than it appears on the surface and has far more to do with recovery than it may appear on the first read through. Please see my reply #28335.5 in this thread. It is the post right before your reply and please see my questions in that post.


Big hugs,


E1


Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are probably right.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
In reply to: empowerment1
Thu, 03-04-2010 - 4:48pm

To answer your question: She's thinking he cared for her because

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Registered: 08-18-2008
In reply to: empowerment1
Thu, 03-04-2010 - 8:31pm

Hi Alwayst,


Thanks for answering and giving the questions some deep thought. I agree with some of your assessments on why the addict might be thinking the way she

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
In reply to: empowerment1
Thu, 03-04-2010 - 8:39pm

In the overall journal entry the thing that hit me the most was, it seems like a dangerous thing for a recovering addict to want to think her dealer is/was her friend. Friends don’t hand you poison to dispense in your body. Real friends don’t enable you to make destructive choices.

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Registered: 04-07-2009
In reply to: empowerment1
Fri, 03-05-2010 - 10:58am

Thanks so much for this post -


I really related to the part about thinking that her dealer was her friend because he provided what she needed.

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