For Jane...

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Registered: 04-05-2010
For Jane...
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Sun, 04-11-2010 - 7:46pm

Hi Jane,


I want you to know that your post to "im getting stronger" really had a huge impact on me today... as I read through "when is enough enough??" I literally felt anger and hope and a sense of renewal inside of me. Enough is enough and all of those applied directly to ME as they do to each and every one of us on here going through the same thing. I have taken a lot of time to read your blogs and have gained so much insight from them. I just want you to know what you are doing is not only a huge benefit to you personally, but you are literally saving others along this road to healing.


Today is day 41 NC which he initiated and this afternoon my H cell phone rang and he yelled for me to grab it for him...I said hello and I hear xAP voice on the other end...he just says "Hey Tim around"? So casual, so cold, no acknowledgement that he was even speaking to this woman he has had an A with for almost 7 years. The shock took my voice away for only a sec but it seemed and eternity...I just replied "yup he's right here"...I hand the phone to H and my chest is burning and well....I know I don't need to give a description of the avalanche of feelings that came over me and I had to hide....


Once I calmed down and had a moment I came here...and there was your post...and I cannot explain at that moment what it did for me...the perspective I gained in that instant was remarkable. Thank You jane and all of you who are helping me heal myself.


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Registered: 02-02-2010
Sun, 04-11-2010 - 9:53pm

Hi Healing- Your post made me cry. Thank you. I am only paying it forward.


Near the end of my A, my life was literally in shambles. I was on the brink of walking away from my M and thought that xap and I would be together... I was so deep in the fog. I couldn't even see that him

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/