The Journey Back to You

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The Journey Back to You
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Thu, 01-06-2011 - 3:19pm

I haven't posted much in the past few months, but I stop by occasionally to see what's happening. And occasionally I need a little hand holding or some wise words to soothe an angry thought. Without EAS, I would undoubtedly still be in the muck and mire of an A.

To the newbies. My heart goes out to you, I know your pain. And I understand your struggles. But I also want to say you just have to make yourself move forward. Living in affairworld is so full of stress and angst. I went through it for years and I know all of you have as well. Iddy's recent post about how her affair affected her health is spot on. We don't even fathom something like that could happen to us - but it does and often to those of us who said oh I won't be one of those. Not only did my affair see me reach the

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Fri, 01-07-2011 - 12:01pm

Hi everyone,

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Fri, 01-07-2011 - 12:16pm

bandk, 34 years, that's awesome!! Congratulations to you and your DH!! :smileyvery-happy:

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Registered: 07-02-2008
Fri, 01-07-2011 - 12:47pm

Bandk73,

Happy Anniversary! It's so good to hear from you! I also love reading your posts. I don't post often but like you I read a lot to remind me of where I used to be. We've come a long way!

~Stargirl~
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Mon, 02-21-2011 - 10:21pm

(((bandk))) It has been a very, very

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Registered: 02-02-2011
Mon, 02-21-2011 - 11:54pm
Bandk nice to meet you and thank you, love cher love that movie!
Iddy- in order for me to live a had to die ty I needed that!
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Registered: 01-24-2011
Tue, 02-22-2011 - 12:36am
Hi Bandk, thanks for stopping by to say hi, and congratulations on your wedding anniversary. What better present could you give your H than to be fully present in his life again.:)

I loved your post and hope you'll share more of your thoughts with us. Stories like yours are what keep us newbies hanging in there.

Sunshine and smiles

Kat.
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Registered: 04-11-2010
Tue, 02-22-2011 - 5:27am

Hi

Love this post. I LOVE Moonstruck! And totally love that scene. 'Snap Out Of It!', New mantra I think :)

Iggyx

You are what you consistently do
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Registered: 11-22-2009
Tue, 02-22-2011 - 6:16am
Wow, at first I thought our gal Bandk had returned, but it was a thread that was resurrected. <> if you happened to pop in and see your name.

LFH,

I am glad this thread popped back up if something I said resonated with you. Yes, it was true. I realized that "In order for me to live, my A had to die." Life is full of choices, and sometimes we have to let one thing go so something can stay. I wanted my life back and my A was destroying that. I'm glad my words gave you another way to look at things.

Love,
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha

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