Just curious

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Registered: 05-17-2010
Just curious
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Mon, 01-24-2011 - 9:43am
How many "Enders" confessed the A to their spouses as a part of the healing process. There's a large school of thought that believes if you don't tell your partner you're still not healing or being fair because your spouse is still living a lie they know nothing about. Just wanted to get your take :)
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Registered: 08-25-2010
Mon, 01-24-2011 - 10:18am
my involvement was open to xH from day one, but I did have to come clean about the intensity and specifics for his closure. I know many would never confess, but there is freedom in not having it covered up.
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Registered: 08-10-2010
Mon, 01-24-2011 - 10:48am
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Registered: 07-21-2009
Mon, 01-24-2011 - 12:00pm

My H knows everything.

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Mon, 01-24-2011 - 2:18pm

There are reasonable and justifiable arguments on BOTH sides.

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Registered: 09-28-2010
Mon, 01-24-2011 - 2:38pm
Completely agree.

It is an individual decision which can ONLY be made within the context of your own life circumstances and preferably with the assistance of a therapist.

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Registered: 04-11-2009
Mon, 01-24-2011 - 2:40pm
My affair was an EA and I did tell husband after 3 months in.. and wished I never did. He never trusted me again...even though I never met AP after 20 years. You have to follow your heart.