just a curious question for everyone
Find a Conversation
just a curious question for everyone
| Thu, 10-21-2004 - 4:07pm |
As I have read over past posts and the new ones, has anyone contacted their xmm and they didn't want to talk to you or said they would call you back and didn't. Did they make you feel like a fool for calling them eventhough the last time you talked - it went okay? I am talking about once you two established that it was over and needed to move on? That I believe is the only real thing that bothers me about the whole ordeal. That is what happened to me. I told him we needed to end it but I called him back. I can deal with the other things but it is that ego and pride thing that just eats you alive bc you are left wondering why did he not want to talk to me. I will not contact him for any reason. I have promised myself that. It will be four weeks tommorrow since I made that call. What was his pupose for acting that way when we had been through so much. This will be question I will ponder, I know, for awhile. Why?

Mere-
My XOM and I agreed to be friends (yeah, right) but everytime I called him he was either a jerk, or rushed me off the phone. He was the one who ended things, but said he wanted to still be friends. I think for them it is an ego/pride thing as well. Does talking to XMM really make you feel better? I know I always feel crappy and sad after I talk to XOM - I would assume it's probably the same for them (even thought they won't admit it ;-))JMHO.
Diva
Well, he probably accepted that when you said it was over, you meant it...so why call you back?
I beat myself up about why and how my exMM wouldn't want to contact me, but I think I've finally realized it doesn't matter, and let it go. We've both moved on...so what either of us is thinking of the other, is irrelevant.
mere--
Just wanted to tell you that I too have felt this & it IS frustrating & upsetting. Could be because you had told him that it was over & he accepted that & was able to put it behind him and move on faster than you. Or, could be that his feelings never were at the same level as yours. I have analyzed this & for myself, I just have to accept that no matter how I may have felt/still feeling that just because I felt a certain way doesn't mean that he did and that can be difficult to accept. Makes me feel like he didn't care and that hurts...but, in a way, that is better b/c that's more reason & motivation to move on and quit putting energy into something (someone) that I'm not getting anything out of.
What is wrong with me? I feel today that I can't go on without another phone call. In fact I'm thinking of asking him to meet me for lunch just to talk. My fear is that he'll say no. His resolve is strong. What should I do?