Just Ended It - again

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Registered: 02-07-2011
Just Ended It - again
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Mon, 02-07-2011 - 4:34pm

I recently posted my twisted story but just sent the goodbye email officially ending things again.

Now I need to work to reclaim my dignity and morality, and somehow find the strength not to break NC.

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Registered: 08-25-2010
Mon, 02-07-2011 - 4:50pm

I just read your other thread and while none of us have exact situations, many of us have maintained long-distance relationships over many years.

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Registered: 08-10-2010
Mon, 02-07-2011 - 4:50pm
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Registered: 01-24-2011
Mon, 02-07-2011 - 5:49pm

Lisa,

I just wanted to extend a very warm welcome to EAS.

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Mon, 02-07-2011 - 7:00pm
I'd like to officially welcome you to endings. I hope you are spending time reading the HL and other posts on the board. In one day you will read of all the pain, hurt, and strength too, of the many enders in the same life boat as you are in now.

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We all had feelings for the XAP and ending an A is by no means easy. Just remember that feelings are transient and do pass, change, and even die. I feel nothing for my Xmm now and we still work together. Time is the healer but you have to give it a chance to work. Breaking NC will only have you spinning your wheels again, splashing more mud all over your life.

You can do this, Lisa. If you want it over bad enough, you will make it work this time. You will grieve, you will be sad, and you will want to cave....but it does get better, I assure you.

Have faith in the process. I have seen tons of people make is out of the A gutter in my almost 7 years of being on this board.

(((Hugs)))
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha