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| Sat, 07-10-2004 - 1:16am |
I came to this board to read about "Ending an Affair" I find the MW on here irritate me with thier reasons for staying in what they call an unhappy marraige. I am a SOW and XMM had the same reasons..I got tired of the same old song and dance. Either SH*T or get off the pot.Oh the children, oh the finances..whining about OM and how much they miss them. This may sound cruel, but I dont have any sympathy, If you hurt its your own doing by. DO you think of the OP and the wreck you leave them in when the A is over. I know I am in that black hole now sturggling to get out and come to terms with his empty words.
JMHO
Hope

Being that you are single you cannot understand what it means or how hard it is to devorce and when you add the responsibilty for destroying the home and security of your own children to the issue it can be just about impossible to do, there is know worse feeling then knowing that you failed a marriage and your children, maybe you need to walk a mile in the XMW shoes to understand what she is going through and why she stays and trys to fix the marriage often even when her husband refuses to face up to the truth that the marriage is in bad shape.
I hope this help expand your prospective.
Free
Hope
I just wanted to say I understand what you are going thru, and I feel your pain....
I have been on both sides of the situation and I know first-hand how difficult it is to leave a marriage under any circumstances, I also believe that it is better to cut your losses that just prolong the inevitable.I was faithful when married, he was not. I hung on trying to "fix things" and wasted several more years of my life on a lost cause.
Now I'm single and just getting out of an A with a MM. Of course I knew better, but I got involved anyway (heart overruling the head again) and I will be kicking myself for that for the rest of my life.
I thought my XMM and I were such close friends, how stupid was I to believe that he loved me and no matter what we would be friends...LOL As you can tell I am still missing him terribly after 6 weeks of NC. The bitterness is deep in me too and I'm working every day to dig myself out. I'm trusting all the posters here who say time will heal....
HOPE
I have read your posts on the all sides board. And I remember you from this board a while back. I am a WS who had an ema with a som. Every day I live with the fact that I played the fence sitting role and caused him pain. I don't really feel as bad for my H. He has mentally cheated on me in other ways. The pain I feel is for the OM. He did know that i was married when we met and he knew that. That is no excuse, but every situation is different. My OM is no innocent. He has had his share of secrets and hurt me in ways too. I guess every situation is different. I just know that hurt is hurt and it seems no one wins in these situations!! Hang in there Hope!!!
Karry
Karry - - who is learning to embrace life on her own raising her miracle, Carley Paige
Hope