Just a Question . . . .

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Just a Question . . . .
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Sun, 01-02-2005 - 10:27pm
A few years ago I was on another board with 20+ other women. One year, in June, 12 of us flew or drove to a midwestern state to meet and to stay at the home of the 13th woman, who, bless her, was rich enough to have a house big enough to house us all, and we stayed five days. :-) (We all chipped in $100 each for food, etc.) No one here probably has a house that big or WANTS to put up with us -- what I'm trying to say is: are there any women here who would like to get together and meet face to face? We could talk about how, what, where and when later if enough women were interested. I live in southern California, and I could fly/drive almost anywhere. Europe is out this year. :-)
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Mon, 01-03-2005 - 10:15pm
I would love to meet as well, but I am in Philadelphia!! Have only been to the west coast once, with HIM!!! Loved it! So beautiful, just wish you all were a little more local!
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Mon, 01-03-2005 - 10:25pm
I'm in Georgia...so it's kinda far from me. I'll be visiting home (northern CA.) in April...but I'm booked up with family that I haven't seen in forever.
It's weird to look at this thread and see that this s*%t is happening to good/smart women everywhere.
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Mon, 01-03-2005 - 11:28pm

Anna, don't you DARE call him! You can love him to the day you die, be grateful that you had him in your life -- and NOT call him!! You will be SORRY!!!! I know! My XMM e-mailed me today, I responded -- and I've been crying ever since. Because I miss him. Because I can 'smell' him. Because none of my dreams about the future (which I knew from Day One would never come true) will never never come true. Dumb, dumb, dumb. But this too shall pass.

Ok, can we have 2-3 topics going on in one thread? LOL

I'm going to get back over these messages, print them out, and see where everyone is at. And we'll start at Square One. Whatever Square One is. I hope I've got some idea after I read these messages. LOLOLOL Because it really would be fun to get together. I'm going to be in Boston in October (I hope), so I could see whoever is from Philadelphia. But, you know, it would be fun to meet in a central place, like St. Louis. Delta Airlines is having a huge price cut. I can get a RT re Boston for less than $300. And, Grace, you're in southern CA. Ok, my e-mail is DellaTerra66@aol.com. (Not mis-spelled. It is "D"ellaterra66, not BellaTerra66.

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Tue, 01-04-2005 - 6:57am

Bella, its so so far for me all the way back here..wish I could be there though, it sounds great.. i mean look at u, already looking up fares etc.

Trish

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Tue, 01-04-2005 - 7:31am

Trish, I only know about fares because I am going to Boston in October to see the leaves change. That's all. :-)

I don't know if we can make this work.

I do know that Wisconsin was really far for me -- but it wasn't that expensive, not at the time. It was under $300.

One woman came by bus. One came by train. One woman got picked up by the another, on the way by car. One woman gave another woman her frequest flier miles.

Of course, I can just see those who are married saying to their hubbies, "Sweetheart, I'm going to be gone for a few days. I'm hooking up (no pun intended) with other women from my 'Ending an Affair' Support Board. See you later. Love you!" That MAY not fly (no pun intended).

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Tue, 01-04-2005 - 8:00am

Bella,


Although I certainly appreciate the thought, traveling 100's of miles to meet my partners in crime just doesn't do it for me ;) I've been on this board on and off for almost 6 months, and have sucessfully put my affair behind me. Many of the old timers know me well, but the new gals (and the turnover is weekly) stick around until they build momentum and then silently fade away...Very few have stayed on as long as

 

 

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Tue, 01-04-2005 - 9:10am

That's fine, True. I didn't expect that EVERYONE on this board would think this was a GREAT idea. The response has not been overwhelming. I am aware that very few think this is a good idea. But obviously some of us do. And, who knows? Maybe some of us will meet. Probably not, but we might.

I'm starting school again in less than a month. I won't be here evety day after that.

And, by the way, I don't think of it as "partners in crime." I am grateful for my A. It changed me, for the good, in many ways.

Nothing is totally wrong -- or totally right. The only time I am ashamed is when I can't keep the NC rule. Or rather DON'T keep the NC rule -- I have a choice. I'm not ashamed I had an A with this man. I wouldn't have another A with ANY MAN, but everything happens for some reason, and I learned a lot from him AND myself.

Thank you for your dedication to this board and congratulations on the successful completion of your recovery.

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Tue, 01-04-2005 - 12:26pm

I live in the bay area of California. Hmmmm....seems a lot of us are in Ca. Could it be something in the water making us temporarily insane???? The idea of getting together does sound fun but it's not realistic for me. I confessed to my H a few yrs. ago about my A after I THOUGHT it ended and he still wants to know who/what/where. I would have a hard time explaining to him who exactly I would be meeting up with.

It's been a while since I've posted due to end of the semester craziness, work, vacation, family problems etc. but I've tried to keep up with the posts.
Even though my XOM has made half hearted attempts to get back into my life, I have not made myself available for him to do so. Hanging tough here and feeling great about it!
CG

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Tue, 01-04-2005 - 1:50pm

Bella,

I am one of the newer girls on the block, and I like your idea. Just keep an open door invitation and who ever can go, goes and who ever cant will be there in spirit.
I too live on the West Coast, and like Annakarena I am from the State of Washington. My neice lives in Burbank so I could always go to California, I would be visiting her :)

On the go chick

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Tue, 01-04-2005 - 3:26pm

Ok, Ladies. Here my e-mail address is again: DellaTerra66@aol.com. When you feel comfortable enough, write me. Those of us on the West Coast could set something up within the next six months. For those of you rather far from the West Coast, we could still do something about all of us (who want to) getting together. I just haven't had time to think very deeply about it yet. I'M AT WORK. :-)

And being VERY good.

Thank you for this. I think it would be a lot of fun. You'll be surprised, perhaps, at how much we'll laugh. And laughter is so good for the soul. :-)