Just Really Hurting Today

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Registered: 06-12-2009
Just Really Hurting Today
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Thu, 07-15-2010 - 10:37pm

I haven't posted in a while but I needed some words of encouragement.

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Registered: 05-05-2010
Thu, 07-15-2010 - 10:47pm

Aloha,

We ALL have had days like the one you had today. You are so not alone in your feelings.

It is NOT fair that those AP's seem to have just moved right along with their lives while we continue to struggle with the broken heart. But, just like I find myself telling my kids, life was never supposed to be fair. Getting through these unfair stages of our lives is what builds our character and makes us stronger.

I know that you are in pain, but hang in there. We will all get through this together. When I am hurting (like I have been all day today), I come here to the board and read, and read, and let it all remind me that I am SO BETTER OFF now that the A is over... we ALL are.

((HUGS))
-Angel

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Registered: 03-17-2010
Fri, 07-16-2010 - 1:00am

Aloha,


I know LC is hard even if i don't experience that

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Fri, 07-16-2010 - 7:37am

Aloha -

My heart goes out to you and what you are going through.

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How come you have to listen to this? If other people in the workplace start talking about him, just excuse yourself from the conversation. Say that you have a phone call to make. If you work next to the water cooler, go to the restroom. Try not to worry about "how great his life is going". I talk to my teenager about this all the time - the fact that it "seems" like everyone else on the planet is happy and has their act together. Not true.

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I used to say things like that all the time - "I'm just your piece of a-- on the side", etc. And he would always answer the SAME way yours did. When I think about it now, it makes me puke. I posted one of my favorite quotes to MO - "Do not speak- unless it improves on silence." I can't imagine how hard it is to deal with LC, but saying things that boomerang back and hurt you need to stop. Focus on you - you are worth it :)

Bodhi

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Fri, 07-16-2010 - 9:08am

Liberty,


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   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 01-23-2010
Fri, 07-16-2010 - 9:27am

It's good that you are in T. It literally helped me not only end my stupid A, but helped me become a better person and stop self-sabatoging myself.


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Registered: 06-19-2008
Fri, 07-16-2010 - 1:58pm

I agree with mom in that you need to stop fishing for him to tell you how much you meant. It doesn't matter; someone or something meant more so why go there? Plus, a man that is going to take the time to bore you with how wonderful he and his life is, isn't going to give you that comfort, anyway. Saying that stuff just lets them know that you haven't moved on, and you're no where near it. Don't give him that. It sounds like he doesn't need any help inflating his ego.


I thought and obsessed over my xAP when I didn't have enough going on in my own life. Actually, I noticed that I've always done that with guys. Being busy with meaningful things to do feels wonderful, not to mention how it opens doors for meeting new people.

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Sat, 07-17-2010 - 2:06am

"I agree with mom in that you need to stop fishing for him to tell you how much you meant. It doesn't matter; someone or something meant more so why go there?"


Wow, that really strikes a chord for me.

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Registered: 12-20-2007
Sat, 07-17-2010 - 9:47am
When I read your posting, It was like reading my own words.