keeping it real: an update

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keeping it real: an update
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Fri, 11-05-2010 - 6:46am

I had to take a break from the board for a few days while I was dealing with the news regarding xAP. I was grieving for him and for me. I wanted so badly to reach out, to even get back together with him. I did neither, obviously. However, against some of the advice given, on Wednesday I spent about

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.

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Registered: 07-21-2009
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 8:11am

I'm so sorry that you have been dealing with this.

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 9:01am

Alwayst,

I'm happy to hear that you weathered this emotional tsunami. They are going to happen as you go through your journey. I could write about 5 different situations I've had to deal with, but I learned that by not acting upon them through an emotional knee-jerk reaction, they would run their course and fade into the abyss. It's all about learning new coping skills and how to deal effectively with theses emotional upheavals.

Now that you have turned your focus back upon yourself, you are also back in control again. Losing ourselves in another person's drama steals our energy, and this is what puts us in a weakened state.

Glad you are back on track. Remember that this is YOUR journey and you

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Fri, 11-05-2010 - 9:39am

Thank you, thank you, thank you Iddy and Hearts.

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Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 10-20-2009
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 9:53am

I am so HAPPY_HAPPY to hear from you today.

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
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Registered: 07-17-2004
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 10:18am
Hi alwayst2,

Thank you for sharing and updating. I really appreciated your keeping it real post and mentioning the new bag of tools for coping. Being aware that we have choices on how we will cope is an excellant reminder to me as a newbie and I will work hard on keeping that bag right by my side. Good work alwayst on working through your emotions it really comes across on how committed you are! Happy. Friday :)
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Registered: 04-01-2010
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 10:46am

Jen,

I used to think I could just wade my way through the ending of this A. It wasn't until I really figured out that I needed to TAKE ACTION to move forward that I have really begun to make progress.

Being AWARE of a situation, ACCEPTING the situation and making a CHOICE about

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 06-17-2010
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 10:49am

Keep it up Always! You've turned a big corner :)

Bodhi

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 10:51am
Shoe shopping? Now you talking my language. :-)
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 01-18-2010
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 5:28pm
I could say I told you so...told ya not to follow that newstory...but being told I told ya sous not what anyone needs to hear in your situation. I will say how happy I am that you obviously learned a lot. One of them is trusting us. Ya see, what makes this board so amazing is that we truly get ya...we get you and how you feel. No matter what your story, someone has btdt...I actually understand you and your emotions n the reaction you had to seeing that newstory...n I warned you not to watch, because I have done things strikingly similar in the past...n I remember how I only hurt myself everytime I scoured the internet and/or TV to get more info about his situation. He too was a public figure...it was all over the news nationwide...when I cut the TV on n all sports channels and started watching the sopranos n law & order n delved into my RL...then the pain lessened. People that I knew were calling to give the latest update about that sorry soul did not get me on the phone..texts were ignored n I set out about freeing myself from the nonsense....
Sounds like u r on ur way n u learned...back to you n you only...blessings to ya...
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 04-01-2010
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 6:48pm

Aww, Luvin.

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.

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