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| Wed, 03-24-2010 - 12:04pm |
I feel like I'm having a trite, middle-aged, existential melt down of monumental proportions. Please, please, kick in with the azz-kicking. I feel I really need to hear from my girls.
Needy Dee

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Really? You are having a middle aged melt down? Have you seen Mel Gibson’s pic lately? He looks like Grizzly Adams meets Gary Busy. He is a hot mess. That is middle aged meltdown! So unless you are going to start having arguments with yourself about religious beliefs and unless your brain has caramelized from the high fructose corn syrup in our prepackaged foods then you are simply having a bad day/week/month.
In the event you are suffering from Mel Gibson syndrome, the good news is there is a cure for middle aged melt down: It’s watching back to back episodes of season one Jersey Shore.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Oh my darling, Dee. If only I was 42 again. You have so many years ahead of you woman, please don't dwell another moment on your life falling apart as a bad thing.
~Iddy~
Hugs, Dee.
I’m with E1...let’s hold off on the "middle-age" melt for another 20 years...forty IS the new 30, right? There are still fun times ahead.
I am wondering if this melt has something to do with running into your xAP this week...
...as well as the yeast infection - that’s enough to bring on misery :)
But, seriously for a moment, let’s contemplate your state of mind a few days ago, before you ran into xAP. Were you in as grim of a place?
Take a deep breath, then another. Today (or week) may be a bad one...but it will end. Think about the "major" stuff next week, let your body heal (infection), and address the bigger issues when you feel better. This is just a blip (or speedbump, as previous poster said).
One minute at a time, k? Another (((HUG)))
I must have posted at the same time as you last time... sorry about that.
Oh Dee- I wish we could all give you a big hug... not sure if you are a hugger or not, but they really do help. So here.... ((DEE)) a big hug from Jane. E1, Iddy and the others have given you good, honest and humorous advice. I don't know what else I could add, except maybe to share a technique with you.
When the whole world seems to be crashing down around me and nothing seems to be going right, I take a step back. Don't focus on the whole big picture... that is too overwhelming. Focus on some little things. What can you do right now to make some forward progress? Pick something small and tackle that. I find looking at the big picture very overwhelming. I fret about things I have no control over and don't take care of the things I do. So, step back, take a quick inventory of things you can do today, right now, to help your forward momentum... This may not be helpful, but know that we are here to listen and support, just as you have been for us.
NC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
There will be no azz-kicking coming from me.
Dee-smayed I didn’t see your second post guess we crossed posted and you didn’t even honk when you went by!
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Yes it goes by fast but who says it is one shot?
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Hey Dee:
I'm a little bit older than you (44), career is not
Dear Dee,
I couldn't possibly come close to offering you the wisdom and insight that all the previous posters have provided - but I would like to add my voice into the conversation.
I would like to echo what others have shared: you are amazing. you are so articulate and witty - you are loving. Are you kidding me? Do you not know what you offer to the world? I can bet that for many women here, your words of wisdom, your kick azz support & hugs when/where required, were what got them through the day. What a special person you are to be able to guide someone outta their darkest moments.
I know that things feel like they suck right now - heck, from the sounds of it, yup, it does suck. However, I have no concerns about you. You my Lovely, are here on this planet to make a difference. Take this sucky time to reflect - on how far you have come and where you would like to go. You my friend, are only limited by your own imagination.
warmly,
Jodi
Bawling. huge gulping sobs. Y'all are so amazing. I am so proud to be a part of this community. You girls rock and thank you so, so, so much for coming to my rescue (more times than I can count, nowadays.)
I wish I could thank each of you individually, but I am a little overwhelmed right now. Please know that each and every one of you touched me to my core and your thoughtfulness and kindness has lifted me from the darkest place I've seen in a long while.
I think the funk hit me so hard because I'm no longer focused so intensely on getting out of the A and I've turned my focus now to my RL, which is amazingly dissatisfying. I feel trapped. Stuck. Unable to find options or alternatives that seem viable. My M is nothing more than a friendly roommate/co-parenting arrangement, and although I love my H, I am not sure I am still in love with him and no longer sure I want to stay in the M. I am not in the position financially to do anything right now but sit it out -- and I used to think that when our ship came back in, the money would relieve the stress and our M would improve. Now, I'm thinking that if I had the money, I'd bolt. Sad. sad. sad. Re my job: the last two years my job has become dull and routine. I would switch jobs but I don't have the luxury of taking a risk right now. I need the security and I have tenure where I am and I can't afford to start over with a new company - not in this f'd up economy. Every effort I've made to carve out new and exciting responsibilities has failed, by no fault of my own, but rather because of (again) the economy and my company's panicked attitude about new ventures. ARG. I am starved for some sort of creative outlet, yet seem too overwhelmed to do much. Catch 22. Starting life over in my mid-40s seems like a monumental task, but it beats the heck of stagnating in my current life for what time I have left on this earth. Btw, Ladies! I don't know many, or ANY, 180 year olds so I think 42 actually IS mid-life! ha!!
The A really did distract me. A temporary and false distraction. and now I still have RL waiting to be addressed - two years later and in much worse repair. I was weak and unable to 'deal' before, hence the A, and now I'm still weak and worse off! I will take the wise advice given to take it one day at a time, to look at the whole picture in little increments instead of trying to tackle everything at once. I'll also buck up and count my blessings instead of wallowing -- consider going back to school and/or broadening my options in preparation for a change - I'll take to heart all of the kudos and compliments y'all were so generous to bestow and remember that I sometimes underestimate myself and my talents. Thank you all, again, for the love and support you shared. I could never accurately articulate how much it has meant to me.
Better days ahead for all of us!
xoxoxo
Dee
ps. - E1, if you had any idea how ironic your Mel Gibson reference is, you'd DIE! just keel over die! ;)
*snap* DAMN!
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