Knight n shining armor, a narcissits
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| Fri, 12-17-2004 - 5:11pm |
Hi,
I learned something valuable last night.
I always had a intuative feeling about my xmm. I chalked it up to my feelings of guilt, but now I know the possessed a few of the narcissitic traits that were posted yesterday, and as I dug into it a little deeper more things came to my mind that left me alittle uneasy about him, eventhough I had fallen deeply in love with him.
The traits that I recognized in him were:
The excessive words of admiration and adoration, sometimes I would be embarrassed at the way he gushed about me in front of co-workers. But my low self esteem ate every crumb up.
Grandiose Fantasies, Some of the stuff he told me about himself, didnt add up. Like he was on a Pro football special teams for 2 years. But couldnt remember any teammates names.
His lack of empathy, when I had an abnormal mammogram, he just went quite for 3 weeks. Till I told him it was a cyst. Then the calls came back regular again, of course he had an excuse for not being there for me, The usual my business is really keeping me busy right now.
Then there is the one I think most of us has experienced The Knight N Shining Armor
Trait:
They gain your trust and find your weakness, mostly married women in marriage trouble, cause they are a big challenge, They mold themselves into what they think that you want, charming, attentive, funny, they talk about wisking you away from what is bad in your life and give you the perfect life. They talk about marriage early into the relationship. But once they have your trust and they have gotten what they want they walk away without even a look back .
So if your intution is sending you signals, take the time to listen to it.
In the long run it could save you alot of pain and in my case second guessing my own self.
Thanks ONTGC

Hey ONTCC,
This post hit close to home for me! Words of admiration - boy was he good at that! He was always complmenting me in front of people. I always knew he had grandiose fantasies, he still does.
When I read your Knight in Shinning Armor I had to chuckle. When we would argue thats what I would call him. I think in a previous post I told you they must have had the same hand book.
Well hope your having a good weekend and thanks for the post it made me feel not so alone with my thoughts.
HC