KUDOS!

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Registered: 03-22-2010
KUDOS!
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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 1:28pm

I have been a lurker on this board for a couple of months now, and I just wanted to say how amazing the regulars are and how insightful your advices are.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
In reply to: norcal_lady
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 2:01pm

Welcome to EAS.


Are the struggles you are talking about from 10 years ago from an A you had?


If so, why not post about how you overcame the A and how you were able to end it and get through NC?


Many could benefit from the support ;)


E1


Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are probably right.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2010
In reply to: norcal_lady
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 5:41pm

WARNING:

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2010
In reply to: norcal_lady
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 8:34pm

Wow, i was engrossed reading your post norcal.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-21-2009
In reply to: norcal_lady
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 11:46pm

What a story, thank you for sharing.

Just like you, every time my x would fish, I remind myself of WHY I dumped him. It is really sad what we allow those pathetic men do to us - but in the end, that's us who are cutting them off. I could imagine so vividly your standing there by his apartment door and crying, because a-hole as he was, he won't even let you in. How humiliating it all was. How humiliating every and single affair actually is. If one thing I learned from this terrible experience, is to never let anyone to treat me like I am not important.

Welcome to the board,

XOXO
Gone

**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Registered: 03-22-2010
In reply to: norcal_lady
Wed, 03-24-2010 - 1:25pm

Thank you, GBG and LW2010.


iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2008
In reply to: norcal_lady
Wed, 03-24-2010 - 3:12pm

It’s interesting your process for ending the A was along the same lines as we advise here to end it requires ending any personal contact and especially with those who work together and are in LC to keep it business only. It’s also interesting that you can recall so vividly the events and feelings you had even ten years out. I don’t think people in general realize how much of a toll As have on a person.


It shows a lot of growth in the healing process because you are able to separate the event of the A from the person xAP.


Thanks for sharing your story and I hope you will stay around and post and help those that are still raw from the ending. Just them knowing that you successfully ended your A gives them hope that they can too!


Big hugs,


E1


Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are probably right.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.