ladybug

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Registered: 07-30-2004
ladybug
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Thu, 01-27-2005 - 9:23am

ladybug,

it was nice to hear from you in my other post. i started a new one b/c i didnt want you to miss my reply. i know you lurk around sometimes i hope you get this one.

yes, i am still struggling with getting over OM. i guess it is because i wanted him at least as a friend. ( we are in the same circle of friends but thats not the same)

he hurt me A LOT. but i am trying to tell my heart that it is over and when i think about him i try really hard to stop myself and think of something else.

i know things in your marriage are going well. but i have not been able to fall in love with DH again. i dont feel sexual with him and i dont feel any attraction towards him. we are great friends but thats it. we are together for the kids.

i think not having someone to love me has made getting over the other fool harder. i long for the attention and happiness i felt with OM and i sometimes think i will never feel that way again.

im learning to just go day by day....

thanks for listening AGAIN:) LOL

upsidedown

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Registered: 09-16-2004
In reply to: upsidedown4him
Thu, 01-27-2005 - 5:52pm


Hang in there hunny,

I know it has to be difficult. Day by day is basically all you can do. Have you tried marriage counseling? Or maybe some alone time with hubby?

Feel sorry for the new bride, she has a real piece of work in her hands. Be glad your not in her shoes even if she does not know, just imagine how it would feel to know you married someone like that.... You are way better off at this point than her, and you deserve better.

If you need me I am here. I look in everyday, I am glad you wrote to me.

Take Care
Ladybug