Late Intro, Hello, etc.

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Registered: 03-14-2004
Late Intro, Hello, etc.
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 4:09pm
Hello everyone,

I truly hope you all are having at least a tolerable day. The sun is shining here, and I wanted to take a moment to introduce myself and make a few comments.

I am not having an affair. (I'm single, no kids btw) The reason I came here was that a couple yrs ago I had a long distance emotional affair (I guess you would call it that) with a MM. Phone calls, e-mails, gifts, flowers delivered to my office, flirting. It was uplifting for awhile. It started online then after 6 months we met in person when he came to my city for a conference. We had dinner together (twice), he got me gifts, we really enjoyed each other. I went to his hotel room on his last night here. No we did not have sex. It could have happened bu I stopped it. AS we hugged good-bye I cried because I knew nothing was going to come from it and I would miss him. He was so good-looking and so sweet and he also was very married (had 2 older kids, one baby). It just felt nice to feel sexy and desired and also to laugh and smile most of the time. In person we exceeded each other's expectations. DARN! :(

After he left w kept in touch for about a year, off and on. Then it just......stopped. For the past year I have had a rough time (a job loss, problem with a family relationship breakdown, a few other things.) I've dated here and there, but nothing serious.

So last week for a few minutes as I was going thru some things in a drawer I came across a moments. I started digging around and found his office number. (We live 2,000 miles apart.) I *considered* calling....but didn't. And won't. There is no point.

.......sigh.

So that's my "story" - such as it is. I'm not crying in my pillow, but sometimes I do reminisce.

When I found this board last night and saw that story from Torn about the letter to wife, I came in with guns blazing. Nasty anonymous notes and phone calls leave a very bad taste in my mouth. No, that has never happened to ME and I really don't think I would never do such a thing, but years ago I worked in a law firm and handled some material relating to someone who did something very similar. PHARMGUR2003, thank you so mush for being brave enough to tell the TRUTH and for not making excuses or trying to justify your behavior. I'm not looking for compliments, but thanks for those also. Torn could very well get herself in some very serious trouble. And she does not need that.

Generally speaking, I am a "straight up no chaser" kind of person. I tell it like I see it, although yes, I know this is a support board. I don't have ice water in my veins, but .....well, I've said all I need to say about that situation.

Anyway, sorry for my tardiness and peace to all.




Edited 3/15/2004 5:25 pm ET ET by redraspy