LC; I feel he is trying to get to me....

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Registered: 04-23-2009
LC; I feel he is trying to get to me....
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Tue, 05-25-2010 - 10:44am

So I am still doing great in general; more importantly though, I am doing great on NC/LC although I feel XAP is trying to really get to me.


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Registered: 01-18-2010
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 11:02am

I just wanted to tell you that you are doing great. Amazing. I am fortunate enough to be in NC. LC is something I simply couldn't handle. So u r my hero anyway. Hang in there.

It def sounds like he is trying to get to you. Just keep up what you been doing. He will give up or it should lesson over time.

Hugs to you

Luvin

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 02-02-2010
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 11:58am

I have so much admiration for those of you in LC. I was in the early stages of NC and I could not take it. I have been strict NC for over 50 days now since I left my previous job. You are truly an inspiration. Stay strong and celebrate these victories- it will get easier and easier each time you succeed.


Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Tue, 05-25-2010 - 1:43pm

LIGA,


Yes, it's very hard at times. BTDT. The good news is that if you keep this up, it will become your new normal. The disengaging process will get easier and easier.

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 04-23-2009
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 4:39pm

THank you all so much for everything; I feel I need to add you all to my Christmas list of whom I have to buy for, lol for all of the help and encouragement you've provided.


Iddy ~

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Registered: 04-15-2010
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 4:46pm

Dear LiAG,

Sorry that I am ringing in late - I am having my own feelings of being totally overwhelmed with being LC. I am on the verge of withdrawing from all our shared contracts together - which would be academic suicide )-: I know what it feels like to feel like they are trying to get to you. My xAP is in visible pain and knowing this, and knowing that he knows I know this, is like torture for me. I feel like this is how he is getting to me: by having to see how unwell he is doing. It triggers my Caring for him instead of me 'self'. I find it so hard to resist. All we can do is keep going. Some days are easier than others. I know that too. You're not alone in your feelings or your struggles. Take care of yourself and I bet soon it won't matter to either of us!

My best,

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou