Letting go

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Registered: 05-23-2011
Letting go
Sun, 06-10-2012 - 10:07pm
I have been reading everything and anything to keep me on the path of NC. I saw this and emailed it to my self. I am not sure where i found it but thought it might be helpful. I for one am having trouble letting go.

"Remember the benefits of moving on. When you let go, you give yourself peace.

Everything about holding on is torturous. You regret, you feel ashamed and guilty, you rehash, you obsess—it’s all an exercise in suffering. The only way to feel peace is to quiet the thoughts that threaten it.

Letting go opens you up to new possibilities. When you’re holding onto something, you’re less open to giving and receiving anything else.

Recognize and replace fearful thoughts. When you’re holding onto a relationship, it’s usually more about attachment than love. Love wants for the other person’s happiness. Fear wants to hold onto whatever appears to make you happy so you don’t have to feel the alternative."

I know i am one that holds on and fears not having this person in my life. But i also know that this affair has brought out the worst in me. On top of lying and decieving, i became petty and jealous and possessive, all classic signs of low self esteem. I think i have always looked for things outside of me to give me a sense of worth. Trying to figure out how to really fix this!

I hate sunday evenings by the way.