Letting Go

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Registered: 04-07-2010
Letting Go
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Wed, 04-07-2010 - 8:11pm

How does one go about ending a emotional affair sanely..lol?He is married l live with my boyfriend it went on for 10 months long distance.We talked on the phone everyday and emailed a LOT.He fell in love and l know l did too.Ten days ago we met in person when he came to my city.


Well l am not his type (my words)

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Registered: 10-21-2009
In reply to: snakecharmer2
Wed, 04-07-2010 - 10:57pm

This man is completely out of his mind. He is married..he is in love with some parts of you, but not the whole you...he wants to find someone else to "date"...And now he is so used to have you there to fill the void that he keeps contacting you even if you are not his "type". Wow.

You let this jerk go in a very simple way and you did all the right steps - cut him off for good. Yes, it won't be easy - you developed emotional bond over those 10 months, but think what are your other choices.

XOXO
Gone

**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Registered: 02-02-2010
In reply to: snakecharmer2
Thu, 04-08-2010 - 9:30am

Sanely? There is no "sane" way to end an A, you just end it. Block and walk. Start self protecting now. Cut him out of your life and start healing. Once you've done that, you begin the painful process of self reflection and growth... and it will be worth it in the end.

Hugs,

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/