Letting go....

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-11-2003
Letting go....
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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 8:11am
I was involved in an emotional affair that was found out before it became physical. (D day was 15 months ago.) MM and I were very good friends for years before we realized our feelings for each other. We never had the chance to talk after we were "found out". We both focused on trying to work on our marriages, and knew we couldn't take the chance to "meet".

Although I love my dh very much, I do not feel the same about him anymore. We have been together since he was 17 and I was 18...half my life. I am a different person now, as is he. As with every marriage, we have our good times and bad.

Here is my problem....Our children go to the same small school, and we are both very involved...we "run" into each other a lot....actually, I should say we avoid running into each other...I catch him looking in my direction, and I know he has caught me glancing in his...He still makes my stomach do flip flops even after all this time. I miss him...

But I KNOW nothing can/will ever happen. But I just don't know how to get past the "stirrings". I thought for sure they would have subsided since it has been so long. Do you think it is just because we were at the "high point" when we were discovered, that we never had the chance for closure?

Any advice?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2003
In reply to: irishgrl34
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 10:34am
No I do not agree, closue in an Affair rarely happens and people move on anyway.

The fact that you are seeing him often is more likely the problem here, you may need to make changes in the things you do the places you go, inroll your kids in other programs.

Be glad it was stopped when it was if you were to have a PA this would be one whole lot harder on you and your marriage/kids.

GOOD LUCK

F