List of Lies

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Registered: 11-22-2009
List of Lies
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Tue, 12-29-2009 - 10:28pm

I'm having a difficult time comprehending the 'reason' why xAP lied to me about some of the stupidest things ever!

Here are a few things:

1. He claimed he had a nintendo wii. FACT: He just got a nintendo wii for Christmas this year.
2. He claimed his parents are together. FACT: His parents have been divorced for 5 years, and his dad is remarried to the OW he had a 7 year affair with on his wife.
3. He claimed his parents were visiting him (they live in a different state), but his mom and dad visited at SEPARATE times.
4. He claimed his mom was visiting him for a month. FACT: His mom stayed just two weeks and went back home. (he would text me how him and his mom are going places, shopping, etc.. but in fact, she was never in town!).
5. He claimed he worked for the government 6am-2pm. FACT: He hasn't worked for the government since 2006 when he got fired for having an affair with a woman there.
6. He would text me during 11am somedays saying he was in my area for his job, and if he could see me on his lunch break. FACT: He didn't have a government job, so he wasn't in my area for any so called job, and he didn't have a lunch break. (he could have seen me for LONGER, but he couldn't stay after sex because "he had to get back to work" which he never had a job!)
7. He claimed his 15 year old daughter is his own: FACT: That's not his biologically. (Granted, I understand that he raised her so he thinks of her as his own, but c'mon you could at least be honest about that!)
8. He claimed that the reason his 15 year old daughter had a different last name is because that's his wife's maiden name. FACT: That's not his wife's maiden name. That's his daughter's biological dad's last name.
9. He claimed that his wife was adopted by Mexicans. FACT: She's not adopted and they are not Mexicans.
10. He claimed he lived in this suburb. FACT: He lived two blocks away from our job.
11. He gave me a false phone number at first.
12. He claimed he had a 'garage'. FACT: He has a car port. He lives in a condo part of a community. NO GARAGE!
13. He even drove me a street from his house, to show me someone else's garage, 'claiming' that's the garage he 'rents'. FACT: That's someone else's garage and he never rented it from no one!
14. He claimed he had a house. FACT: he has a small condo.
15. He claimed he has two rottwielers. FACTS: He has two mixed, small dogs...more like boxers and a poodle.
16. He claimed he has two bathrooms, one in the master bedroom. FACT: He has one bathroom, and no master bath.

There are other lies he told me, I'm sure, but I can't think of them now.

Ummm why would he lie about these STUPID STUPID STUPID things that NEVER would have made an impact on 'us'? Supposedly, its because he didn't want me 'knowing his business'. HELLO I'm sleeping with you, you consider me your girlfriend...I think I deserve to know who you are!

*sigh* I'm sharing this list with everyone so that you ALL would have a better understanding of what type of hell I been through for two years. And I am so THANKFUL to be rid of that! Now he's HER problem, not mine!

NC since Dec. 9th 2009

No Contact = No N

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Registered: 03-03-2005
In reply to: llostagain
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 12:20am
Reread this before you even think about answering those blocked calls....continue to make you your biggest star player, its the only way
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Registered: 12-04-2009
In reply to: llostagain
Thu, 12-31-2009 - 3:18am

OMG!!!! He didnt miss a thing. WTF!!! WOWOW! I know common sense would tell us to RUUUUN RUUUUN as fast as we can. Well we did. :) But we are still hurting. There is this poem or piece about "importance of letting go" although I am not complying 100% I read it all the time and it tells us to let go really of the negative and take the good with us. I really hope that in the future we are not going to put up walls to the "nice" men out there because of these men. These lies blew me AWAY!!! Im sorry you had to go through that. Now me looking from the outside in. What a loser he is. You deserve a nice man who believes that you deserve the truth. You deserve that family you desire to have one day. To be honest if you were to hand my XAP on a silver platter I will say NO WAY.. I too want that family but I want a family that loves an respects each other. I want my children to know what a healthy "love" partnership is really about. I was robbed of that and I dont want to repeat cycle. I would rather be alone.

LOL I am going off once again. I just have so much on my mind...UGH!

Time heals all wounds, unless you pick at them.
--Shawn Alexander
Time heals all wounds, unless you pick at them. --Shawn Alexander