Little announcement and then Roll Call time. ;-)
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Little announcement and then Roll Call time. ;-)
| Mon, 01-03-2011 - 10:52am |
Hello enders and wanabe enders. :smileywink:
First off, I would greatly appreciate it, if there were no more responses to any of the "retreat" threads. Alwayst2 has graciously suggested to email/private message her for where to find further info on your retreat. Wishing you all good luck in pulling this off.

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So has it been 3 months now since you started NC? My calculations put you in TweenerVille, if not today, then perhaps this week? Got a date? I would love to give you yours wings, honey. You have certainly earned them.
((Hugs))
I will double check my calender at work, I track my nc counter there and will get back to you on the exact date! Thank you iddy, with your support and everyone here on the boards support it has been amazing. I am so thankful I came out of lurkdom and I am absorbing and growing from all I am learning:)
update: Hi iddy, I started nc on Oct 8th, 2010 :)
Dang nabit Iddy!!!
Thank you for the roll call.
Me too me too, I'd like to welcome Looking up and Finding me to EAS!
I am here.
Last but not least I hope~~~I'm here and ready for my first roll call. I'm so glad to read each and every one of your stories. Mines really no different. I'm a MW with two kids and XAP was M with three kids. We had been flirting for years prior to starting our affair. Our kids go to school together. Our affair lasted on and off for 18 months. The physical part was easier to break off than the emotional.
It finally ended when I could no longer take the lying, double-life, and guilt anymore. Once I realized that we were having an indefinite affair with no plans to leave our spouses, the weight of what I was doing really set in. He would have liked to continue a friendship, but from what I've learned from this great board and trying to be friends in the past, is that it simply does not work. A friendship would have still been secret and would still have caused pain to our families.
I haven't spoken to him in 14 days but have been official NC contact for almost 11 days!! I can't believe it!!! That's the longest we've ever gone in NC. I'm truly hopeful for the future for the first time in a long time.
Best Wishes
HC
Hi Finding!
Yes our stories are so similar. When I would try and end our affair before, I would always allow hope that he would call, things would change, blah blah blah. Somewhere in the last 6 months, I realized that this was it. This was the most I was going to get out of this man. And frankly, it just wasn't enough or worth it anymore.
I began to start pulling away slowly and let me tell you it was so hard. But just like you, I really had a wake up call at Christmas and wanted to change myself. This is a year for change. Someone recently said to me, "change is feeling fearful and going ahead anyway." I'm scared but determined this time. Posting on this board is a big deal for me because before I wasn't sure if it was truely over, but now I'm ready.
It sounds like your doing a great job! As long as we take each day and sometimes each minute, we'll get there. We CAN do this!!
Best wishes
HC
Hi Iddy
Still here when i can be. Life does not seem to improve.
Bullet points for newbies
1. MW 2 kids with MM 2 kids .......15 mo on/ off affair.
2. 3rd, and undeniable Dday on xAPs side in July, i was thrwn under the bus.
3. Ugly Dday by xAPs W to my H 3 months later when NC had been firmly established on both sides
4. My H not taking things well, cant stay, cant leave. clinically depressed, hasnt worked in 3 months with company in administration - H is medicated but its not working - ANGER, REVENGE
New Choices, New Chapter,
New Challenges,
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