Little announcement and then Roll Call time. ;-)

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Little announcement and then Roll Call time. ;-)
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Mon, 01-03-2011 - 10:52am

Hello enders and wanabe enders. :smileywink:

First off, I would greatly appreciate it, if there were no more responses to any of the "retreat" threads. Alwayst2 has graciously suggested to email/private message her for where to find further info on your retreat. Wishing you all good luck in pulling this off.

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 11-22-2009
Thu, 01-06-2011 - 2:19pm

At this time, I would like to thank everyone who posted in on this thread. It was good to see some

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 10-17-2010
Fri, 01-07-2011 - 8:18pm

Nocompromise,

I was wondering how you were doing!

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Registered: 01-21-2009
Sat, 01-08-2011 - 1:10pm

hello,

I can come out from the woodwork. Do you accept men's opinions here as well? I was once told this is a "primarily" woman;s board. But to make a long story short. I feel trapped. I have truly been trying to end my A for 2 years. I have tried being nice, honest, mean and nothing works. I am back with my spouse and things have never been better!. I am so happy. My wife was verbally, physically and emotionally abusive to me for 10 years. I had given up. I met a woman and felt new again. But those feelings faded. And my wife has CHANGED. She knew I wouldnt put up with the abuse anymore.

So I'm trying to get out of this. My AP is a good person but can be manipulative. I believe she is a love addict and sometimes I feel used and wonder if it was me or her addiction to love. She was gone for 10 days over the holidays and I really didnt miss it. Now surely there have been times where I was hangin on as well but I'm done w it now. I hope I can be of help to anyone here as i have bee in A for 3 years and have some good insight. How do I make that final leap? Thanks for listening

Amexdm

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Sat, 01-08-2011 - 1:20pm

Amexdm,

Welcome to our community and may I suggest you start your own discussion regarding your situation. It will get lost in this thread. You can just copy and paste this one if you'd like. The board is very quiet on the weekends so perhaps starting your own thread come Monday will serve you best.

How do you make the final leap? You have to block your OW completely. Please continue to read here and learn what you can over the weekend if you have time. Understand that talking to an AP about wanting the A over is a waste of time and energy. You have to TAKE ACTION and that means blocking, deleting, and whatever else to safeguard yourself from her contacting you. Only then can both of you begin to heal.

I hope we will hear more from you, and yes, men are welcome here. Only condition is that you are ending/or have ended your A and you want our support to keep you A free. We have a great group of people here all wanting the best for one another.

(((Hugs))

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 08-21-2010
Sat, 01-08-2011 - 1:34pm

Hello Iddy and all the rest of you on here. I'd liek to wish you all a peaceful 2011.

I am still lurking,

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Registered: 07-21-2009
Sat, 01-08-2011 - 3:13pm

Sorry I am so late in chiming in.

I have had more than one A, but the one that led me to this board was a 7+ year affair with my then boss.

I had a D-Day July 2009 that changed the world as I knew it.

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Registered: 12-09-2010
Sat, 01-08-2011 - 7:34pm

I'm still here, A ended on December 16th. This past week was my first one back at work after 2 weeks NC, and we work together. Trying to master the LC, it's a complicated work situation.

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Registered: 09-28-2010
Sat, 01-08-2011 - 7:55pm
wishes ...

please post a full check in about your first week back. I am worried about you, and want us to be able to support you, okay?

Please???

TU.
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Registered: 01-18-2010
Sat, 01-08-2011 - 8:33pm

Yeah!!! Finding me...so so so happy. I get so excited when we bring out a lurker. YOU GO GIRL!! Obvious by your ending that you been here a while and have been reading. WELCOME!!! Hope we have done ya some good along the way. Many Blessing to you this new year. I am not around that much but I hope you post when you are up to it....thanks for making me smile today!!

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 01-18-2010
Sat, 01-08-2011 - 8:34pm

Hi Peter, good to know you are still reading....blessings to you...

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida