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| Tue, 02-03-2004 - 4:54am |
This is to celebrate for a moment, amidst all our problems, the art (and it IS an art for me) with which we women here deal with our problems and how capable we are of expressing ourselves, of giving warmth and loving (reciprocated or not) and support.
I have come here a couple of times with my problems and was received kindly, answered thoughtfully and supported immensly. I skimmed through many postings and could so often find new angles to and new viewpoints for my own situation. Thanks for these boards which bring us closer to people that understand.
Getting better? Hanging in there? Desperately trying to find a way out - or into something new again? Whatever all of us come here for (and there are so many posts, so many problems...), someone always finds us to give us detailled/lovingly-critical/honest/understanding support. Here, we and our situations are never laughed at, no one is looking bored at hearing the same story the umpteenth time over, we are not scorned when we experience setbacks and when we are too weak to get it all worked out at the 1st attempt - and we can see (and this is SO helpful) how many of us have similar problems. It is a loose-knit community, but whenever I come here and maybe just read a bit, I feel kind of home. Here, "I read you" means what it should.
All the creative thoughts, pieces of poetry, situation-related film-scenes or song/bible-texts contribute to the help and uplift we find here.
However bad/mad/hurtful the situation may be at the moment: We DEAL with it the best way we can. And there are success-stories, which land here, too...
This is why I think we, all of us here, are so great. And so comfortingly, cheeringly similar; whatever our country, colour, religion or status in life. And if this isn't something to celebrate, even if it's just for a short moment only, I don't know what is.
I'm not being blue-eyed (the next problem will come as sure as the sun goes up every day...), but I would like all of us to take a breather and acknowledge ourselves for the wonderful beings we really, really are. Let's go on encouraging the women who can't breath at the moment, because they are stuck in there right now, that there will be a time when things will get better. We can do such a lot for each other.
Here's two quotations that I find very true. In our black hours when we can only hurt, we tend to forget that we are so lucky to possess the capability to love - many people have to go through life never experiencing what most of us, at last, hold so dear in our hearts...
"The story of a love is not important - what is important is that one is capable of love. It is perhaps the only glimpse we are permitted of eternity."
--Helen Hayes
"An act of love that fails is just as much a part of the divine life as a act of love that succeeds, for love is measured by fullness, not by reception."
--Harold Loukes
Maybe needless to say that my OWN situation is getting a bit better now, despite setbacks. The more time passes that I stay NC, the easier it gets. A lot of things to do with my OM will forever remain unresolved, a lot of question will stay unanswered, a lot of hurt will stay unconsoled - but now, very slowly, I can accept that fact. The "moving-on-point" in the road is coming in sight. And when I get tempted to sit down and email the OM, I go to this board instead, and it helps keeping me on what I know is the good and right track. And if I fail, I can come here, too. Thank you all.
Here's wishing you good progress and strong hearts,
Marion. x

(...and coming from me, a guy!)