lurkers

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2009
lurkers
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Mon, 09-06-2010 - 10:21am

I was reading some old posts and realized that there are a lot of one-time posters who haven't come back. Either they're lurking or gave up. Thinking that they gave up makes my heart hurt, literally. I wanted to extend an invitation for all of those one-timers to post again. My question to them and to the lurkers who never post but read often: Why? What is holding you back from posting here? Obviously, if you're not an ender, just a Contemplater, then you'd not post - but, if you're an Ender... why are you denying yourself the benefit of a two-way relationship with this board?

Dee

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-13-2009
In reply to: deeulta
Tue, 09-07-2010 - 2:36pm

Hi Dee.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2010
In reply to: deeulta
Tue, 09-07-2010 - 7:36pm

Hi Dee,


iVillage Member
Registered: 08-17-2010
In reply to: deeulta
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 1:28pm

I'm a lurker and occasional poster I guess you would say.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-18-2010
In reply to: deeulta
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 8:24pm

Hi Dee,



I am a one-time poster (or I should say, one thread poster) and I just want you to know that I have not given up.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: deeulta
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 10:15pm

So good to hear from you Superwoman! I've thought about you and wondered how you were doing. I'm glad you are still reading and maintaining LC. Keep it up :)

Bodhi

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-22-2010
In reply to: deeulta
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 11:47pm

I do not quite know where I fit in. I am definately a lurker, I sometimes respond if I feel I have something to add that will help, but I have not initiated a thread of my own yet. I will never be a Tough love poster, but a listening ear and a willing student I can be.



I think my story is just very similar to many others on this board. M for over 20 years, A with old classmate, toggled between MAS and EAS for a long while and finally decided A was not worth it and started ending process. I say "process" because I did not go cold turkey NC. I eased into it. First, I stopped driving by his house and initiating contact then moved to not returning phone calls and then refusing to look at text. Next I stopped looking for him on Facebook and stopped all e-mail and IM. In about a week (yes, I set deadlines to go NC) I will Unfriend him and he will not have access to my profile and I will block his number completely from phone (he will get a message-Text did not go through) and I will cancel my secret e-mail account that we used. He has respected NC except for one fishing IM in which I quickly typed that I was really busy and had to go and then lurked here.



I do get a lot out of reading post and I do not think I am avoiding accountability by not posting. H and God hold me accountable, I just come here for strength and wisdom.

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