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| Mon, 09-06-2010 - 10:21am |
I was reading some old posts and realized that there are a lot of one-time posters who haven't come back. Either they're lurking or gave up. Thinking that they gave up makes my heart hurt, literally. I wanted to extend an invitation for all of those one-timers to post again. My question to them and to the lurkers who never post but read often: Why? What is holding you back from posting here? Obviously, if you're not an ender, just a Contemplater, then you'd not post - but, if you're an Ender... why are you denying yourself the benefit of a two-way relationship with this board?
Dee

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Hi Dee.
Hi Dee,
I'm a lurker and occasional poster I guess you would say.
Hi Dee,
I am a one-time poster (or I should say, one thread poster) and I just want you to know that I have not given up.
So good to hear from you Superwoman! I've thought about you and wondered how you were doing. I'm glad you are still reading and maintaining LC. Keep it up :)
Bodhi
I do not quite know where I fit in. I am definately a lurker, I sometimes respond if I feel I have something to add that will help, but I have not initiated a thread of my own yet. I will never be a Tough love poster, but a listening ear and a willing student I can be.
I think my story is just very similar to many others on this board. M for over 20 years, A with old classmate, toggled between MAS and EAS for a long while and finally decided A was not worth it and started ending process. I say "process" because I did not go cold turkey NC. I eased into it. First, I stopped driving by his house and initiating contact then moved to not returning phone calls and then refusing to look at text. Next I stopped looking for him on Facebook and stopped all e-mail and IM. In about a week (yes, I set deadlines to go NC) I will Unfriend him and he will not have access to my profile and I will block his number completely from phone (he will get a message-Text did not go through) and I will cancel my secret e-mail account that we used. He has respected NC except for one fishing IM in which I quickly typed that I was really busy and had to go and then lurked here.
I do get a lot out of reading post and I do not think I am avoiding accountability by not posting. H and God hold me accountable, I just come here for strength and wisdom.
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