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To Lurking bs's
| Tue, 12-29-2009 - 1:39pm |
Dear Lurking Bs's,
I know that you come here searching for answers, trying to understand your WS and your own pain.
| Tue, 12-29-2009 - 1:39pm |
Dear Lurking Bs's,
I know that you come here searching for answers, trying to understand your WS and your own pain.
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Not to butt in on your conversation with Classy...
But why is that on ivillage there are these groups of wife vs OW?
NC since Dec. 9th 2009
No Contact = No N
BIG UGH
What are you saying, Lost?
Hi Energy,
We talk about addiction a lot here on EAS and your post follows along the line of addiction recovery and represents Step 8 of the Twelve Step program of AA.
Congrats. to you for reaching that point in your recovery!
To reach Step 8, you must first go through the other steps. Step 4 for instance, is to take a ”fearless moral inventory “of yourself.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Clarity,
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Amen Sista!
When I first saw this thread, I knew it was stretching the guidelines a bit but I thought it was so beautiful what Energy said and it reached out across the boards
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
I completely agree with this post and thank you for bringing it back around to it's original intent. With that said,
This is not a debate board. That is what the All Sides board is for. Anyone disagreeing with what Energy originally wrote needs to keep your feelings under hat and suck it up. ;-)
I don't want to read anymore posts re. "feelings" toward the BS, good or bad. Actually, I would really like this thread to just go away. Like you,I didn't want to respond to it either and had reservations right from the start...But we can rectify this now and save the good parts, by not responding to this thread any further. I don't enjoy having to get a thread pulled, so let's just call it a day by letting it sink onto the next page.
TIA,
~ Iddy~
~Iddy~
The only reason I didn't post sooner is because I needed to take a few days to really reflect. I thought your post was beautiful - not only because it was directed at the BS but it helped me, and hopefully others, redirect our self-focus and pity in a direction that causes awareness and growth. I will never have the opportunity to directly apologize to my DH nor my xAP's BS, but I've been sending a lot of healing energy their way. The only way I can now show the due respect that I failed to show either of them before is to completely leave xAP alone and allow him to heal and make amends to his W, if he can. I am truly sorry for interjecting my cr@p into their marriage and for all the time, energy and love I stole from this poor woman. No person, no matter who they are or how they act in their marriage, deserves to be cheated on. The pain I caused my xAP's family will haunt me forever. It will serve as a very real and potent reminder, always, that I acted very badly and I will never, ever repeat that mistake.
I am sorry that this tread didn't go the way you wanted, but, for me, it was very helpful and I truly appreciate you posting it.
Love,
Dee
Edited 1/3/2010 8:11 pm ET by classy01
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