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TO: Luvinmeforever
| Fri, 02-26-2010 - 9:40am |
Woo-Hoo! Congrats goes out to Luvinmeforever today. She is now a Tweener and has earned her wings. Let's all congratulate her!
Here are your wings, honey. Wear them with honor and pride! You've earned them

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WTG Luvin!!
I cant wait to get back to where you are! Congrats...keep it up. Be proud of yourself
Debbra
Such a HUGE accomplishment. I was going to say that I hope to join you one day, but I am going to say I know I will join you one day. Keep up the great work!
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
I am so happy and proud for you Luvinme...Fly high my friend!!!
I hope you have the most fantastic day and weekend!
Luving-
Congratulations and good job!
You're an inspiration to us all and we're lucky to have you on this board. Keep up the good work and the keep the great posts coming.
Blessings,
Dee
WOW,
I feel like its my birthday!! Thanks Iddy for the Thread, Thanks for all the congrats. Whewwwwww, it has been a ride. My goodness. I wish we could all have a big celebration. I actually did think of MM today. But I was thinkin, I did it. I did it. I did it. It was more like...It was not so much that I had beat him or that I won. It was more like, I was saying to myself you deserved so much more than that MM could have EVER given you, whether he was M or not. You would have let him ROB you of everything you ever were or could become. So me finding that he was M, was a blessing...sometimes we get in dysfunctional relationships whether a party is M or not. Just so happens when they are M, its just a lot more complicated.
Well Enough of that...my fellow tweeners who are regularly on the board, DignityPLease, FreeConfused, Deeulta, DM (even tho you broke NC, and Lost (she will be a tweener in a week or so)....there are many others, know that although I did not name you. U started this ride with me...we all hurt like hell in the beginning. I whined, you encouraged me, you whined I did my best to comfort you. I owe this to you ladies...This was our accomplishment...not just mine. We were cyber buddie, a team of sorts...when I had to come out the game, cuz I was a mess, you jumped in and encouraged me to get back on task....
Vets, you are the backbone of this board...so many of you ladies, giving your time to help me when i was in the darkest of places...U work he is remarkable and so valuable. Not even T's can give me what you all did...and I have to pay them...LOL.... You ladies are strong and oh so wise. I am proud to be in your presence. And although I have never met any of you....it would be my honor to do so. Not only have you been a huge supporter, but your have become mentors/teachers. You helped me regain my dignity and hold my head up again. U taught me that we can not even begin to be whole in any relationship if we do not love ourselves first. You taught me that it is more than ok to stick up for yourself...Its ok to say NO. You taught me to not care what other people think and not let others make or break you. There is so much strength I have pulled from you all. Please know that you can count on me to be here for years to come...I HAVE TO PAY IT FORWARD, not only to honor you but because its the least I can do...
Newbies, Misty, LiliAlma, BeStrong, SilverDoe, Wcfem, New season, Amylo, again there are others...sorry I can not name you all. I am just a regular lady. I do not have superhuman powers. I just had to dig the deepest I ever have. I lost my dad and my childhood friend and it took more strength to get thru this than anything else in life. It shook me to my core. It was like....well hell, you know what its like, no need to go there. Just want to let you know that it does get better. When and how is different for all of us. For me it was journaling, saying out loud in my shower or in the car "STOP," I would have conversations with myself. Those daily affirmations, seem stupid but you would not believe there power if you COMMIT to doing whatever it is that works for you. I also threw myself back into my kids lives...I did not hover or smother (although they may think otherwise..LOL) but I did let them keep me busy and distracted..and then before i knew it, I did not need ditractions, I did not journal as much, he faded away.....and still is.
You all can do this, I do not care how long or much you have invested. I know the pain seems unbearable....but where you happy in the A anyway? What are you really missing? I am not saying your exAP was not a good person, I am just saying....what were they able to truly bestow upon you that you could not find elsewhere or better yet, give it to yourself. Again, you can do this. No matter the circumstances, you can do this. I am proof. It has not been a easy road, I was forced to look in the darkest places of my life. I was forced to stand alone...and be alone and work thru the pain and I came out on top. I vented here. I cried here. I wanted to break NC, but I did not. And it works it simply does....Easy concept, often tempting to break, but the best rule on this board. Its a narrow path, but the path is there, you just have to walk it on thru. And I am here to walk with you all side my side and WILL be congratulating you all really soon too....I will be around, I aint going no where....
If you all need some inspiration or affirmations or anything else. I have many, just let me know... and this board is full of many a great posts....its like a wealth of knowledge and information. I found that me understanding how I got in a A and understanding EXap helped me so much, I learned not to take things so personally...that is especially helpful for those who feel rejected etc..
Thanks a bunch a bunch a bunch...
Luvin
PS...Grrrllss, aint my wing so prritttaayy....lol. I am so proud to sport em...
oh and I realized I did not mention Couldntsayno....had to come back and mention you....sorry i can remember others soon, I will mention ya!!
Edited 2/26/2010 2:36 pm ET by luvinmeforever10
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Congratulations, Luv!!!
I'm proud of you! WAY TO GO!! Keep it up! I know you will :o)
Free
PS: Am I really a tweener??
Free~
If you have been NC for 3 months then you are a Tweener. Please confirm and I will send you your wings too. It's impossible for me to keep up with y'all, so I need a little reminder. ;-)
((Hugs))
~ Iddy~
~Iddy~
free_confused,
I thought you were, I could be wrong tho. thought you and I were neck in neck in dec...you will be soon if you aint already, 90 days no contact...3 months. I counted mine down, it was my way of making it. I do not recall you breaking contact....so you would better know than me. If you are and did not know it, we need to have to have a cyber party!!! If you will be, we will have one soon, than lets do so when you are...
let me know, now you got me thinkin....hmmm, normally my memory is pretty sharp!!
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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