Made it through my first 24 hrs
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Made it through my first 24 hrs
| Tue, 11-30-2010 - 9:11pm |
NC for 24 hours. I had no intention of contacting him, but fully expected a text from him. Nothing. It was a hard day, but work, my family, activities, and your wonderful support helped me through. Thanks.

Congratulations :smileyvery-happy:
I sent you a message.
MC
Congrats Just!
Me too, Just.
Justdt,
I never properly introduced myself, I'm a newbie like you, i wanted to welcome you (and hug you) and assure you that we are at the right place. The beautiful people here, the advice, the support and the wealth of information that is available is incredible. Whatever you do just keep reading and posting and most importantly stay NC, as hard as it is. I can relate so much to having that phone glued to my hand, i almost had a few car accidents while in the process of texting, how ludicrous is that? I
Just,
A big congratulations to you! I remember vividly how terribly painful the first couple of weeks were. You have to keep moving forward with determination just one hour at a time. I am proud of you for deleting the texts. That takes courage and strength and you did it!! This is going to be a time of many ups and downs for you. Acknowledge that. Know that. And then fight through every urge you have to contact him or respond.
It took me three times to finally end my A. I resisted blocking him the first two times. This third time I blocked and it made all the difference. You see, when you don't know whether he has tried to contact you or not, it is hugely empowering. You will realize that it doesn't matter. You have taken the steps to protect yourself and you'll realize that you did it for YOU. Not him. YOUR healing is the only thing that matters. Please, I urge you to block if you have the means to do so. As long as he can get through to you, even if you don't read/listen to his fishing attempt, you are still being affected by the drug.
Today is day 50 NC for me--the longest I've been able to go in a year. And now, there's no turning back for me. Once the toxins have been expunged, you will begin to see other things so much more clearly and those little realizations are essential in our healing process. You must also understand that "healing" doesn't mean getting over him. It means fixing what's inside you that made you turn to an affair as a solution to your problems. As you now know, the A only created more problems. It brought down your self esteem, caused you to lose your dignity, made you powerless. Those are all senses you can regain through continued NC and turning your thoughts and questions inward.
Have FAITH that this process works. In the beginning for me, that's what I relied on. I had FAITH in the wise words coming from the vets and tweeners, even when I didn't think I'd make it one more hour. You CAN do this but it takes an enormous amount of strength and commitment. You are worth it, sweetie.
You have 24 hours under your belt. Tomorrow morning, you will have 24 more. Stay the course.
With love and compassion,
~alwayst2
Just,
That is awesome!
Take each day as it comes and take strenght in your resolve to stay nc and most importantly take care of you. It also took me three times before I went full nc, once I did it made a huge difference. Now is the time to deal with me and what my issues are. You can do it, each day is a buildind step to a healthier you:)