Make or break the marriage?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2004
Make or break the marriage?
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Mon, 06-28-2004 - 8:16am
I feel like such an idiot. I really do. I do not know why this guy won't leave me alone. Anyhow, this weekend, he called about 15 to 20 times. CAlled while he was traveling on a 2 hour drive away from his wife, while he was away, and on his way back. HE informed me that on Friday morning, he, his wife, and the rest of his family are going to Canada for a week. And this trip will make or break his marriage. Evidently, last year, when they went, she punched him in the face. But it seems like he wants me to think that he might be leaving her when he comes back. It's driving me CRAZY!!!

Also, here's something that I want to post to the board because I don't understand why he's telling me these things. He knows I am capable of certain things because I went to his pastor in April who married he and the W in May. I went to the W's sister and showed her that this isn't my pursuit. HE shows back up in my life a week later. THEN, he says " I can't tell you this, becuase you might use it against me." Meaning open my mouth. BUt then the next breath he proceeds to tell me anyhow. Does he want me to tell her? IS that what he wants me to do? I don't understand. If he's playing a game, and doesn't want her to know, wouldn't he leave me alone becuase he knows I am capable of opening my mouth to tell the world? I want him to either go away or get away from her. It's gotta be one way or the other. I was fully prepared to let him go when I didn't have his phone #, but then he just keeps popping up. He is messing with my head, and I know that. I just don't get it. Does this occur alot?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2003
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 8:40am


Are you sure this guy is not just plain old fashion NUTS NUTS NUTS, sure sounds like it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2004
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 9:47am
I agree with ya. HE must be nuts, because he's driving me nuts. BUt what do I do? How do I go about getting rid of him for good? HELP ME!! PLEASE!! OR at least get him to make a decision.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-2003
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 10:12am
Oh my goodness... how can a week vacation, make or break a marriage? He already knows what his marriage is like. So, what happens if he has a great week? Then he goes back home and things are back to "normal"? He sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. Are you wanting back with this man? My advice would be to RUN as fast as you can. If you are sold on THIS man, then wait until he figures out what he wants. If he doesn't want his marriage to work, then give him the space to get a divorce and start working on himself, before you let yourself become even more intertwined in his crazy life. You deserve so much more than what he is handing you right now. I think that he doesn't really know what he wants and in the meantime is keeping you along for a "just in case" purpose. Please respect yourself more than this. If you love him, that's normal and walking away from him and the situation doesn't mean that you don't love him, but it DOES mean that you love yourself MORE... and he should love YOU more than to put you through this any longer. Again, what is one week going to tell him that he doesn't already know?? THESE MEN... GRRRRRRRR!!!!

Ok, :-), just my two cents...