Is this man a sociopath?

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Registered: 12-21-2006
Is this man a sociopath?
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Tue, 04-27-2010 - 11:37pm

I have been in a relationship for the last six years and just discovered that I don't really know the man I am with. I know this sounds hard to believe

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Registered: 07-28-2009
Wed, 04-28-2010 - 8:25am

Julie,


Plain and simple...

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Wed, 04-28-2010 - 10:11am

Juliet,
Yah, um, run. And get therapy. You are going to need a lot of help extricating yourself and your family from this mess. Please don't put it off.

I'm not sure why you posted on this particular board, but it is obviously a BIG cry for help. You really, really need to act on your feelings NOW.

Best,
Dee

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Wed, 04-28-2010 - 10:51am

Julie,


This board if for ending affairs, so unless one or both of you are already M, then I would suggest searching other IVillage message boards more suitable for you situation. Here's one that may help you:


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/listsf.asp?webtag=iv-rllivingtoge&ctx=512&cacheTag=x28-0&ld=4%2F12%2F2010+13%3A26&mp=50&sts=4%2F28%2F2010+10%3A28%3A18+AM


I will briefly state that your BF sounds much like my deceased brother, in that he was a pathological liar, and had similar characteristics. If you google "sociopath" it does sound like he depicts

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 08-18-2008
Wed, 04-28-2010 - 11:24am

Hi Juliet,


You’ve posted on a board specifically for people who were involved in extra-marital affairs and are getting out of them.


You may find more help for your post in the following forums:


Toxic Relationships: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rltoxicrelat


Ask the Relationship Saver:

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Wed, 04-28-2010 - 1:54pm
Yes, sounds like a socio, but a dangerous socio. Please follow ur gut n do whatever u need to to keep u n children safe. I am sorry u r going thru this. I don't know if u thought u were on an ending a abuse board but your not, still we read n reply, let us know if u we can guide u to the support you need. Not sure from your board if he is ur boyfriend or affair partner or both. Doubt it because u mention dad n child but I wanted to know for sure. Either way, protect yourself.
Luvin
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Registered: 04-23-2010
Wed, 04-28-2010 - 7:44pm

First........he is guilty of a federal crime. The stolen valor act covers this, and his claim to being a Navy Seal is just the start of it.


I think that his "confession" of killing someone under government orders is also a telltale hint that he is letting you know that he thinks he is capable of killing someone who gets in his way.


It sounds like he is very controlling which is aother very dangerous sign.


You losing weight, and him not being in control of you, is a hint that trouble is ahead.


Run, don't look back.


We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

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Registered: 08-24-2008
Wed, 04-28-2010 - 8:31pm
Juliet, this man screams narcissism and sociopath. The fact he used your son to "make a point" proves that. Personally I think he is ticking time bomb who will unleash anger on you if he feels threatened. He is a liar and a nut and you need to RUN, not walk away. E1 posted a threat to the Toxic relationships board, you might get more responses that way. Be safe.
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Registered: 08-02-2000
Wed, 04-28-2010 - 9:34pm

Juliet....

I felt fear for you just reading your post. I don't know what other information you could possibly need to know that you have to get out of this relationship. This guy is not only a liar, but sounds downright dangerous. And I fear that you are going to have a very difficult time getting away from him. I'm talking probably restraining orders and stalking. He has proven to you that he is a liar and a fake, immature, controlling, jealous and just plain creepy. Though he professes his love endlessly, he has proven to you that he does NOT, in fact, genuinely love you, because when you love someone, you are supportive of them. He has shown you that on the contrary, he would rather undermine your efforts to improve yourself than support them. I suspect that he is incapable of truly loving anyone.

Run like your hair's on fire. This man is a loser with a capital "L".