Manipulators and "tell the wife"

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Manipulators and "tell the wife"
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Fri, 01-21-2011 - 9:42am

I'm just this obnoxious that I wrote a reply in another post and fear it's going to get buried... oh, no!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-2009
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 10:15am

This was worth having its own thread.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2010
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 10:20am

Standing applauding you DEE (:

Certainly not grabbling my ankles (anymore) ... which is such a great thing because i now see the world from a less partial perspective!

Gosh darnit (with a whole bunch of words that I wasn't allowed to post thrown in),

am I glad you're back from holidays.

TU.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2010
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 10:22am

Oh Dee,

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love all that you said and the last line was priceless.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-01-2010
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 10:29am

She's baaaaaaaaaack!! Woot-Woot.

(((DEE)))

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 10:33am

Soooooo good to have you back! I hope you enjoyed real Africa as much as we enjoyed fake Africa at Disney!! ha ha

Your post rocks.

Bodhi

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-23-2010
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 10:36am

Point:

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 10:41am
Bravo! I was just writing someone yesterday that Dee's input is much needed right about now. You did not disappoint.

And this coddling thing going on? Come on folks. Coddling is for babies with boo boos. You are all grown up women/men who "screwed" up in a big way by making stupid, selfish, choices (me incl.) and the only way to fly straight again is to completely change your flight pattern. After 3 months or more of being on this board, you should know better by now that justifications and excuses are not going unnoticed.

When XAP calls, you slam that phone DOWN. When he/she writes a text, you delete it immediately without reading it. When you see an email from them, you delete and then block because you obviously didn't block them correctly the first time around.

Telling the spouse? NOT AN OPTION. You didn't bother filling them in that you were boinking their H/W during the A, so where do you get off thinking this is something you do now? It's called revenge. It's called high school. It's called needing to grow up. It's called dealing with your own sludge now. You made this mess, and you are the one who needs to clean it up.

Great post, Deester. Sorry you are PMSing, but a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do. ;-)

(((Hugs))
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 11-22-2009
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 10:47am
Of course you are going to disagree because you've already done this, but I still think there were other ways to have solved this. The only way I would excuse this kind of action is if I knew the spouse and she came right out and asked me if something was going on. Continuing to lie after being asked by a woman in pain, is about as ruthless as you can get...other than the A itself.
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2009
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 11:13am

Mom,

"trying to pursue me" is a lot different from the situation we're talking about.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-23-2010
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 2:21pm

Welcome back Dee!!!!!!

I've been gone for a while working my arse off.

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