Manipulators and "tell the wife"

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Manipulators and "tell the wife"
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Fri, 01-21-2011 - 9:42am

I'm just this obnoxious that I wrote a reply in another post and fear it's going to get buried... oh, no!

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 6:29pm

I can not speak for anyone else...but ya'll know me, I am pretty direct.

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 04-20-2009
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 6:36pm

Michelle,

Heck no. I'm not directing anything at YOU. I alread directed to you in your own thread, didn't I? :)

Dee

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Registered: 10-14-2010
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 7:01pm

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh OK!!!! :) ok!

Good, I got that then.

I thought I was being

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 07-17-2004
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 7:47pm
Dee it took me all day to read and re-read your post. It really resounded with me. To help myself and others our endings need to be about us soly and to be real is what makes true support beneficial. Thank you for opening my mind further:)
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Registered: 11-16-2010
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 8:12pm

Hi Dee

I have a feeling this was directed at me?

I know i am going to get blasted here LOL, but when i 'threatened' my XAP, or should i say 'bluffed', because that was the ONLY intention of that strategy, it worked like a charm, he actually left me alone.

When i threatened him, it was ALWAYS with the intent that i would not pursue it, it was a complete and total bluff, i know i have hurt XAP's wife considerably, I would NEVER contact her, unless it was to apologise, ENOUGH DAMAGE has been done (he had a dday).

I could handle the calls and texts, but he was stalking me at shopping centre car parks, cafe, children's daycare centre etc, it was worrying me (i never had a dday). He even grabbed me at one point. It was manageable in the beginning

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 8:34pm

Vanessa and all,

This is NOT directed at anyone yet at everyone.

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Registered: 09-28-2010
Fri, 01-21-2011 - 8:39pm
Dear Dee et. al,

I for one ... needed this post. I needed it for myself, and I needed it to serve as a wake-up call to those of us who have become "soft" in our responses to fellow posters who are making self-destructive decisions. We are all so sensitive here, our self-esteem gets shot, and therefore we feel unable/unwilling to be "harsh". It's empathy that can come across as coddling and boarderline collusion.

I need this board to keep it real. I NEED to hear the voice of reason when my own is wobbling. It takes VERY little to send an ender into a spiral of justifications for breaking NC. The sooner we can get one another back on track, the better off we all are.

You don't need to defend anything Dee. We all just need to take a collective look at where we want & need this board to be, and get back to doing what it is we do best: ENDING AFFAIRS FOR GOOD.

TU.

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