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| Wed, 02-24-2010 - 9:10am |
Ive been with my H for 15 years(this june). I have had some time to reflect on my M. Theres been alot of life thrown at us, alot of mistakes, some regerts but lessons have been learned.
Im digging deeper into my behaviours and wonder if M after this many years is just how it goes. I mean my H has tried so hard in the last 2 years, has given me uncondiotnal love,he takes care of me, he knows my moods, my needs, he makes me laugh (oh my gosh,does he ever)...it appears as if everything is happy go lucky. So why have I not been happy with this-It all seems right, these are all the things that I want--My H is all the things I wanted XAP to be; so yeah I did have everything I needed right at home.
I dont have any friends that has been in this long of a realtionship- is this just how it is after 15 years? I find I get bored-lack of excitmenet and dont know how to change that.
We are having sex again, which is helping with the letting go part and rediscovery, but thats not enough I find myself wanting more, more fun, more excitment even more taboo. Which is probably how I let myself go looking for an A.....its so taboo.
I look ahead and wonder in another 15 years we will still be together, still fighting the same old deamons. will it be better? will I have regerts that I couldnt see the signs(if there is any).
Im content and Im bored all at the same time. Is it that life needs to spice up or my M?
I have been thinking about XAP , NO I really dont want that...so whats the best way to get over someone....move on to something bigger and better....sounds like an excellent idea to me BUT I cant seem to find that something bigger and better within myself. I often think I just want 'jesus to take the wheel' and make it happen so its so much that I cant turn my head backwards. I feel like Im waiting....just putting in time.
Is this just how it is after being with someone for so long?
TIA
DM

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Hi again Debbra J,
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You know I use to worry about saying certain things on the board and that they might be taken the wrong way but you know what…Why should you or I hide details about our lives especially if they are positive?
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Thanks NS,
You are always so positive too and focused on what we can do as individuals to make a positive impact on our day. EAS is very lucky to have you posting here. We have a great community with some wonderful ladies and gents and many success stories. We are lucky to have the dedication of so many that give back to the community!
Much love and big hugs,
E1
Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are probably right.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
You BITCH! you funny, funny bitch!
ahahahahahahaha. OMG. OMG!!!
I don't have batteries for the saddle, btw. It's a kick start, thank you very much. It's out of GAS! hahahah.
Debbra - E1 is right! she's _always_ right: I DID say I was jealous, but only because I was telling you how wonderful and lovely and happy I am for all of the positive things in your marriage!! And how I wish I had them, too! Not like _really_ jealous. Heck, I NEVER get really jealous! I'm waaaaay too full of myself to do that.
LOVE,
Dee
P.S. - go for the later dates. My birthday's not until May.
You guys are hilarious....Love to come here and laugh. Spent so much time on this site, crying, so refreshing to be laughing her these last couple of days...Btwn this and "Bossin u around thread" we are quite a fun bunch!
Thanks again,
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHH!!!!
Really a kick start…that explains the Dee-sensitization.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
ah, fudge! why didn't you come up with dee-sensitization when I was looking for a new screen name a few weeks back!!?
ahahaha.
Ok, NOW we have completely hijacked this post with silliness and Iddy is totally going to ground us.
sorry! sorry! wiring my jaw AND my hands shut!!!
Deez-combobulated
E1- I think we all need to be thrown down the kitchen table every now and then!
Dee- Lock my date in for the end of May; batteries my dear might get the job done but sounds like an oil change is what you really need ; )
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