Max its not always about sex

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Registered: 02-18-2005
Max its not always about sex
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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 5:33pm

i would have to disagree with Max on that they only want sex.. not all men are like that. Believe me I never had the actual physical part of the affair only because OM wouldn't see me out side of work. We saw each other twice last summer and than he put an end to it. we still continued to talk at work and I would email him alot. But he had every oppertunity to get with me. He commented one time when i came up to work to see if he wanted to go out, in a email, after turning me down that " he wanted to see me but I looked too good and he didn't think he could behave himself" His words. what a guy, I think that made him all the more desirable. We have since remained friends. Although I have deep emotinal feelings for this man. I have been good though not to email him for 9 days now. thats good for me.

I saw him today at work, went to get my check. He got his hair cut, short buzz cut like he wore it before I asked him to let it grow last summer which he did. What does that mean???? He smiled a big smile like he does. I didn't go through his checkout, i do usually. He looked at me and waved goodby as I left.

I was lucky not to work with him at all this week, and only one day next week. normally I would email him about his haircut but I'm not I 'm going to stay strong.

As far as my marriage does anyone here not wnat hubby to touch them. If I had my way I would not have sex at all. I 've been sleeping on the couch for a year. it seems as though too much time has passed to repair the marriage. I feel like I'm just going through the motions.
Anyways thanks to all who are here listening. Sorry I went on so long. but i had to vent.

Meeeeeeeee

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Registered: 02-10-2005
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 6:47pm
Honestly KitKat, I don't know WHAT it's all about. There's just something there that's unexplainable, on my part at least. Maybe it's the fact that he's an older man(36 y.o, but i'm 23) Maybe it's that I see him as something else but had the feeling confused. I guess i'd like to believe it's my fantastic lovable personality ;) but i'm not sure if that's what he sees. I don't feel that way at all about H. I don't even feel the connection, never have I guess, maybe i was just hoping it would "develop" SAD, i know.
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Registered: 03-13-2004
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 7:37pm

sorry i sid sex go get a mad reaction, to get upset, i know its not all sex, i too would love attention and feeling loved and all the good stuff that comes with it, too bad the affair only provided some of it, it was nice in the beginning, u are like in cloud nine but now i feel like im in hell

OW only want sex from me i guess, so i fugure those MM/Om too want sex but i know men also fall in love and we want the whole package also, not just sex

:(
max