Max...Question

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Registered: 02-10-2005
Max...Question
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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 5:44pm
Are you an single OM?
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Registered: 03-13-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 6:39pm

yes i am single, OW is not married but she and the father of her daugther are living in the same house

max

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Registered: 02-10-2005
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 6:48pm
I need your perspective, or just your opinion..
Before anything happened between you, was there ever a point that you avoided her so that you would not get attached?
I'm married, and I'm obsessing over this single OM. I feel that we have this connection and everytime we have a really "good" day at work, he seems to really pull back from even hellos. What's your opinion?
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Registered: 03-13-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 8:05pm

love,

i wa single and i pursued her, yes she did tell me to stop and i did but she would come back to me after maybe 2-3 weeks, its both our fault, i was hoping she would ask the father of her daughter to leave them but she did not, she said the father of her daughter is a good father, although they dont get along anymore but both of them are doing this for thier daughter

my opinion is u should back off, for me i was the one obsessing with OW, she broke it off more than once or twice but i would ask her back and she would come back, now i think she is decided not to come back and im the one having a hard time just like u if u continue to pursue MM

its even harder if u work together, OW and i work together too, now she is trying to look for anohter job just to get away from me, she said she cannot spend time with me and she cannot make me wait for her

- i did not avoid her, i was living alone and lonely and i have known her for about 4 yrs prior to affair, we were realy close friends , and after u cross the line(sex) it all changes

my advice for u is seek some help why u want OM than your H, im sure there is some issue with yourself, your H and your marriage, be carefull coz the pain is not worth it at all

my 2 cents based on my experience, and it is very painful right now, i truly regret it, now i lost a friend also

max

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 10:34am

Max,

I don't really have anything to say about this thread. Just wanted to say that it's interesting to see a single OM out there. I am a single woman who, well, I won't get into my story again here - I posted it once as a thread to introduce myself. Suffice it to say that I rarely get to hear from a single OM and I am grateful that you are here and I enjoy reading your posts.

Jules