may I ask a non-A related question?
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| Wed, 03-03-2010 - 10:00am |
Oh, man, I hope I don't get spanked for this but I really wanted to ask a non-A specific question and take advantage of the amazing resources of this board for some feedback. I really cannot find the answer to this question anywhere else, at least, not in the real and honest way I can here. Again, I am sorry if it's incredibly inappropriate and I apologize in advance if it is.
Faking Os was brought up the other day. I wanted to know.... oooofff... soooo difficult to say.... here goes: Do you fake it? Do you always fake it? how common is it to have or NOT have Os during sex? The Oscars are coming up next week, and if they had a category for Faking It, I'd be preparing my speech and buying a designer dress right about now. I am beginning to think I'm an sad anomaly or that Os during sex for women is just a cruel urban myth.
Ok, flame or share. I just had to give it a try.
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Dee

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Hey Dee - I'll step up with you.
Yes I have faked O with AP. In the beginning he would ask if I had and I wouldn't really say anything. I mean how can you politely tell him sorry hunny but I need more than 5 minutes to get warmed up much less go from start to finish!!! Like we were racing or somethin!
After a few times he did point blank ask me and I was honest then and told him no, I guess you can say I faked it by omission?
So in over 1 year I've had 2 O with AP. Last relationship I was in - it was everytime.
Pretty sad huh?
I'll bite. I rarely fake O's. Maybe I can more easily achieve them? I am not sure, but this has NEVER been an issue with me with any partner.
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Hey Dee Gurl~
Let's just say I'll be attending The Oscars with you (: and we'd be sharing that da*mn award!
Rarely if ever with h (and even less likely post A since our M is in rough shape) and with XMM it was incredible s*x--like super duper hot--yet I still *couldn't*....and I always faked the "ending" for his benefit.
Clearly, this is another "issue" for me to add to my list.
Crap ):
LL-
God Gawd, at least I'm not the only one!
You can go on stage with me, but you can't talk. You stand quietly in the background and try to not steal my thunder. I've worked really hard for this reward and I have a whole lot of people to thank! ha, not really -- you can talk.
Thanks to all for chiming in!
Dee
Dee and lifelesson, I'll be grabbing that
I faked it with XAP all the time. He was so quick. I swear it was like 15 minutes. At the time I thought I was so super exciting and hot to him that he couldn't contain himself. NOT!!!!
I actually never had an "O" with a man until I met my DH. I had them all the time when I went solo and for the longest time I thought that was the only way I could have one. The first time we made love and I felt myself exploding I could not believe it and it was explosive. I found out in T that my mental block was because I was so screwed up and my brain wasn't working with my other body parts.
Now I have them all the time. My DH and I have a good ole time together.
bandk73,
Holy moly--what a workout that was for sure with your xap. Sounds like he was definitely trying to prove his "manhood" (: Then add on the Viagra and you've got a horny man trying to prove himself!
My situation was similar in that my xap was always in this "but it turns me on to see you so turned on" stuff and the "you before me" mentality. I always felt under pressure too and couldn't really relax fully.
At home with h now I'm really struggling still with comparing the two! AP was better in every way--YET, what makes me ill now is that I so implicitly trusted AP--of course he was better--it was secretive, crazy, and wrong. Of course at the time AP was better because he was living out his fantasies. Ugh.
Anyway--back to your last question...NO...there were no condoms used. AP had a vasectomy and of course he professed that we were going to be married anyway--so I trusted him. Now, looking back several months--I'm worried and going to go in for some STD testing. Now, I'm thinking more clearly that maybe I wasn't the ONLY one.
When will this all end for pete's sake!?
hugs and laughs,
LL
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