May I share a story? KINDA LONG!!!!

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May I share a story? KINDA LONG!!!!
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Sat, 05-10-2003 - 2:39am
My XOM/MM gave me many things to be thankful for! The story I wish to share tonight is one that I will cherish forever!

I wear a silver bracelet every day 24/7 that I talked him out of. Why ? Because it's got so much history in it that I felt I needed to have it! Not because it reminds me of him but, because it is a piece of each of us !

So... Here goes. He(XOM)worked in a liquor store for quite sometime. There was an old haggered looking man that came in every night. This man lived on the street and panhandled for enough money to buy a 24 oz.bottle of beer each evening. One night he showed up with no cash, in need of his beer. He bartered for it! He offered to trade my XOM a silver bracelet he was wearing as collateral for that bottle of beer. My X said "okay". He wore that bracelet to work every day for 6 months waiting for this man to return so he could give it back!!! He never returned.

This silver bracelet is a Native American Storyteller Bracelet!!! And the guy told him this story....

He was serving in the U.S. military during the Vietnam war. His best friend and he were paratroopers. His best friend had hand crafted this bracelet before they left for jump school. Wore it on every mission. On one terrible day they jumped out of their plane and into a jungle! The friend who made the bracelet was shot and as he died he gave this bracelet to his best friend and did so with faith. Faith that the best friend would return from this war unharmed. He did! He also wore that bracelet in honor! For 30+ years! Then he TRADED IT FOR 1 BOTTLE OF BEER! He did put it in the hands of a scoundrel! But, it was a scoundrel with much honor, one who himself had been a paratrooper and had fought in the Lebanese war. Without choice! And one who was having an affair with a LADY who recognized the value of the PAIN all these men suffered! FOR US!

Did this alcoholic do the right thing trading this much cherished bracelet for a bottle of beer? Yes and No.

I have it, and have already found out much of it's history all by myself! Did my XOM do right trading him? I believe YES! He did so with honor and passed it on to me. I will always cherish it! I have yet to find the rightful owner, which is the family, but, I will!It represents so much to me! It is a piece of AMERICAN HISTORY! And I believe it was put on my wrist for a very specific reason.

So, there is a moral to my story! I hope I didn't ramble too much! But, the moral is one I leave to each of you to decide for yourselves! I will be very interested to hear what you all think it is. Ha, the everloving challenge! I think there are many ! So, help me hear????

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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 2:40am
I loved your story Sweet!!!!!!Yes it must have some kind of meaning. I am just so upset right now that I can't even think straight. However, if you wear that bracelet all the time it might be hard on you b/c it will remind you to you XOM. Just a thought. Hugs to you anyways...... B.
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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 12:42pm
Your story was heartwarming! It's sad that the man gave it away for one beer, but when alcohol takes over nothing else is more important than that alcohol. :(

You sound like a wonderful person and it seems like you really appreciate it, so I think that's all that counts. Oh, I was being nosey and I clicked on your profile stuff and I see you have birds! wow awesome! When I was five, my parents bought a red lord amazon, she died two years ago because she had diabetes. When I was 9, my parents bought a blue front amazon and she's sitting in my living room right now! :) She's a little stinker! She roams all over the house. Most of the time I find her on the top of my bathroom door (she crawls up my robe on the back of the door) or she's on top of the shower curtain. How long have you had yours? And who did yours take to? I know they all have favorites. Both of mine liked me :) I was young and spent a lot of time with them. Ever since my son was born, the one still alive flips right out if my son gets too close to me. She crawls off her cage and comes running towards him if he's sitting on my lap or touching me. She's jealous and I guess she's been around way before my son, so she would be. Ok I'll stop rambling on and on now! :) Take care.

Michele
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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 7:07pm
Hey Blonde!!

Your story to me, felt like a lesson in compassion. A reminder that we all have stories, we all have past pain in our lives. A reminder to show compassion and understanding for our fellow man, no matter what we our going through ourselves.I think to look down and see that braclet on your arm should be a reminder of how fragile we all are. Its so easy to get wrapped up in our own emotions, our own problems....and we all know how wonderful it feels to have someone reach out to us, see our pain and really care. I hope you find the family, in fact i hope you find that man....I think you are wearing that braclet for a reason. I have seen your gift of comapassion...Love Jb
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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 7:50pm
HEY J! You couldn't have hit that nail on the head better! That is exactly what this bracelet means to me! Darn, you make me proud to know you! I do look at it and every once in awhile it reminds me of my XOM but, the majority of the time it reminds me of a young man who died for his country and another who survived and returned to a place that treated him with hostility!

Yes, we each have our stories and our own pain. But, we also have the ability to reach out and make friends who understand and accept that! Unconditionally! You are a blessing MISSY! Thank You!
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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 8:04pm
Hi Bluesky, I won't call you blue! I so want you to be a BLUESKY! First I want to tell you that this bracelet does remind me of my X on rare occasions. Only to thank him for giving it to me! See my post to Jbongay and you will know the rest!

I have no idea of your age but, will go out on a limb here and ask if you know who the Allman Brothers are? If you do or don't doesn't matter. The fact is that they wrote a grest song called "blue skies". I would sure like to see you pick your butt up off the ground and ride again! I've been litterally bucked off a horse so many times! Once I got dumped into a huge pile of horse manure! Thank God! Only had a concussion! If that wild, crazy, horse had dumped me on the hard ground I would have probably fractured my skull!

My point is this: Put on your hard hat and ride again! Your user name tells me you wish for the best! So..... Please know I care! Please know I'll be relentless in getting you back on your horse! And go find that song and make it the anthem of this board!

GO GIRL!!!!! How fast are you anyway???? Hurry I'm timing you!!! Kidding, but, my Mom used to always do that to us! HAH!
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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 8:40pm
Hi Micheleka, I posted to you earlier and it isn't showing up! I wanted you to know I have a Blue Fronted Amazon who is a stinker too! A hand raised baby that's a biter. Talks and is ooooooooo sooooo cute but bratty. She has been angry at me ever since my double yellow head died of cancer 10 yrs. ago. He was my 1st parrot and was 25 yrs. old. It broke my heart but "Cecil" only knows I put her buddy in a crate to go to the vet and HE never came home. My other Amazon parrot is a little red head amazon named "pidgeon". Pidge flew into a cougar cage at a zoo where I worked and we managed to save him just before he became cat food. With many baby cougars,leopards and bobcats that year he was'nt safe there so was sent home to live with me 16 yrs. ago. Pidge is old and so sweet and docile. My 3rd is "Skittles" He is an Umbrella Cockatoo. I used to have his parents and both have since left me. Mom died and Dad was donated to a breeding facility. But, Skittles was hatched from an egg that I incubated. I helped him hatch and hand raised him. He's now 8 yrs. old and a Sweetie! He's good with everyone who's good with him. He also talks and loves my DD and my H. Cockatoos are the worst about choosing a specific person to bond to.

I can tell you that if your son is afraid of the parrot it will make it worse. Have you allowed him to make friends with your stinker all by himself? They are still wild animals. They haven't been in captivity enough to be considered domesticted! You refer to your parrot as she? Do you know for sure? Most likely it is a he. They mate for life and you have become his mate. If it's SAFE! I REPEAT SAFE! Encourage your son to make friends with this birdy while you aren't in the same room. Treats, toys, whatever works. They do get jealous! They have the mentality of 2 yr. olds and never grow out of it. For 50-60 years! Holding both at the same time helps too!

My cockatoo always intimidated my DD. A few months ago they both got ill about the same time. She (DD) helped me nurse him back to health. About a week later she got the flu. This bonding between the 2 of them was amazing! She holds him, pets him, and even puts him inside her sweatshirt now! He looks like some kind of silly monk! But, she's no longer afraid of him, thus, he trusts her!!!

Now I went on and on! But, you got me started on my favorite subject! CRITTERS!

I Thank You! Animals are truly the love of my life! Probably how I ended up with my XOM!LOL! Find your way home BABY! Please?
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Tue, 05-13-2003 - 6:12pm
Hello blondie!

Well let's see...I still catch myself referring to my bird as a baby blue front, when we've had her for soooo long! We got her when she still didn't have all her feathers and she really didn't know how to climb in and out of her cage yet either. I can remember my mom feeding her with an eye dropper. Well when i was about 20, my mom had her put to sleep and sexed and both the parrots were females! Imagine that! So maybe my bird (at one time birds) swang the other way! haha! :) Why did u think she was a he? Maybe they told us the wrong thing at the vet? But from what the vet had told my mom, both were females. :) The blue front doesn't feed me, but everytime i even came near my red lord she would regurgitate her food up for me...ewww ick! haha We bought pete (the red lord) when she was one...and I guess the people who had her just thought she was a boy. She loved the bottom of her cage...CONSTANTLY ripping up the newspapers to make a nest, so we switched to something else but i forget the name of it... oh and my baby blue fronts name is Nachos.

Thanks for replying... I hope to one day buy a cockatoo or another parrot! They are def. a lot of fun. Demanding at times, but fun! Do your birds have YOU trained? Mine screams the minute she smells food. Or if I am going out, and she wants to go she wont stop screaming until I pick her up and bring her a long. She's pretty good, I wonder if I could buy her a leash! We cut her wings but u never know what they are capable of doing and I don't think I want to find out! Thanks for the advice on holding both..haha..I did that and my son got bit ..hard at that...my bird is really sneaky, she climbed on me one day when i was watching t.v. and my son had his head in my lap...i was petting the bird and i quit and didnt pay any attention to her and she managed to crawl down and bite my son on the ear! Jealous with a BIG J! My son and her do play also...but it's more like "i'm the tough bird" and my son runs away and laughs at her..so she chases him. OK I'm shutting up now.....talk to u later! Michele