Off to MC today...

Community Leader
Registered: 06-08-2010
Off to MC today...
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Tue, 04-24-2012 - 9:49am
Good morning to all my EAS'ers,
Just a quick blurb on me here...but before I do that, I really want to thank everyone here who has extended words of support and encouragement to those who have needed it. This is a great place with a ton of great people. :) Just had to say that. ((((HUGS)))) to all. There are no losers in ending...we are all working. Working toward the same goal - to be FREE and healthy!! It takes time, precious time....
Okay - so H and I are seeing a new T for MC (love all these abbreviations) this afternoon. We have never gone to a man before, so that should be interesting and I look forward to this new perspective into our journey of rebuilding this M. This T has a Ph.D and uses the Gottman method of MC - has anyone heard of that? It is fairly new to me, but from what I have read about it on the internet, it sounds excellent.
Both H and I know that there is much work that needs to be done in our M. We need to be pro-active and not neglectful of so many things...sometimes it is exhausting just to think about it. But, one day at a time. :)
I'll keep you posted as to how things go. ;)

Hearts <3
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-26-2009
Tue, 04-24-2012 - 10:02am

Hey Hearts

I agree, there is a fabulous bunch of people on this board (you included :-)) who keep on taking the time to help out the ones who are stuggling... I wonder sometimes would have happened to me if I didn't discover this place.

Good luck with the MC! Sounds really exciting - I know nothing about the Gottman Method, but am really interested in how it goes..

Keep us posted!

WGO

Every recovery is a kind of rebirth
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-24-2011
Tue, 04-24-2012 - 11:07am
Hearts,

I really appreciate the sensitivity, care and concern you have for all of us here!!!!!

My DH and I did so much MC. I finally had to drop out because we were not achieving significant strides necessary for a productive partnership. (No DD).

One of the significant changes that occurred in our R was when DH started attending IC last year. It was time for him to look at himself and to stop projecting and blaming me for his issues.

Best $$$$$$$$$ ever spent!

Hope it goes well for you!

(((((hugs))))))
progression
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2011
Wed, 04-25-2012 - 6:45am
The Gottman books saved my M. I first read "Seven Principles for Making your Marriage Work" in January last year and within two weeks I ended the A and joined EAS. As they say, once you learn something you can't unlearn it and Gottman certainly opened my eyes to the damage that my contempt for my H was causing to my M.

Good luck with the MC Hearts - let us know how it goes?
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-13-2011
Wed, 04-25-2012 - 5:18pm
brilliant update hearts! wishing you and your H all the best on your journey together.

it will be interesting i think to gain a M perspective. My T is a dude and he is awesome.

if you are both committed to making you M work and are open, honest and communicate then I am certain you will get through it. And remember, if it unfolds that you guys are in fact better off apart then a good T will guide you through that too.

No matter, what, seeing a MC is a win win situation.

Hugs!
keep us posted.

EO
The first day of the rest of my life: 25/10/2011