Mementos

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Mementos
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Wed, 09-16-2009 - 1:22pm

A lot of us received gifts, emails, cards etc. from xAPs. Personally, I scrapped some of it but kept the expensive presents, and I archived all of the emails we exchanged during our 3-year A.

I have recently developed an interest in Feng shui and it clearly states that if you keep old mementos around they will constantly bring you down and your future relationships will fail until you clear out the past.

So *drum roll* I am eBaying the expensive gifts, and I am ready to delete all my Emails. I am not even keeping an archived copy, I am ready to let them go into the great cyber-grave beyond, and clear out my past once and for all :)

Who's joining me!! Let's get rid of the clutter of our ended A's, and clear out our energy!

big hugs!

trixie xo



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Registered: 02-05-2009
In reply to: trixie1313
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 1:42pm

OMG I did it.... deleted them all... hundreds of emails.

Feels good :) :)


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In reply to: trixie1313
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 1:48pm
WOW! I am SO proud of you!!!!!
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In reply to: trixie1313
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 2:05pm

Good for you Trixie. I hope you get a good return on some of the e-bay stuff. What a way to turn a loss into a gain.


Wonderful!!!


Big Hugs,


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In reply to: trixie1313
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 2:18pm

Good for you Trixie....I deleted all of mine about week 2 of NC.

 

              &n

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Registered: 08-17-2009
In reply to: trixie1313
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 2:19pm
I like your thinking!
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In reply to: trixie1313
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 2:24pm

Yay, Trixie!! Woot, woot!!

My xAP and I communicated lots via email, as well--we lived 1700 miles apart, so emails and texts were our main modes of communication. And when I let every single last email and text go into cyber space and beyond, it was a bittersweet moment. On one hand, I felt a sense of freedom and closer, letting all his empty words and declarations of love disappear with the click of my "delete" button. On the other hand, there was this weird grief that I felt--not so much a sadness of losing him (cuz by that time I was seeing him more clearly for the loser that he is), but a sadness for losing the fantasy of "happily ever after." I was in love with the fantasy, and A LOT of what we wrote about to each other was just that--it was "fantasy." What life would be like if we were together. The things we'd do, the places, we'd go, the way we would make a RL relationship work . . .

Anyway, it's a big step to let that all go--it was for me, anyway. Congrats on purging :)

-Juliette

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Registered: 02-05-2009
In reply to: trixie1313
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 3:14pm

Thanks ladies, big hugs to all of you :)

Juliette, I could relate to your post, I had a LDA as well. I have a tough time letting go of the past in general - I told my BFF that I had deleted his emails and she said 'You still had those? Bout time you got rid of them, sheesh'.

I don't know why I kept them; I had archived them so I couldn't see them in my Inbox but they were still 'there'. Even if I never looked at them (a lot of them are nasty email fights, anyway, we were a pretty volatile match). It's funny, once I deleted them I started looking for other things I could delete, lol.

I'll let you guys know how the eBaying goes! Hopefully I will get some buyers.

xoxo

trixie



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Registered: 08-27-2008
In reply to: trixie1313
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 3:15pm

Thats some pretty awsome inner strength you have. Great job!


I have to admit that I admire that kind of strength. I have deleted everything I possible can from the computers,cameras all of that stuff. On monday, cleaned out my purse which was full of 'reminders' and I went to a g/f's place and burnt them. Its not everything that I have that is 'us' but its a good start. I figure I walked into the fog one step at a time, Ill walk out of the fog one step at a time. Im sure there will be more burning coming..hehe.


As for the jewelry he's gotten me; Im pawning it and getting myself 3 rings of birthstones representing the people who matter to me.

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In reply to: trixie1313
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 10:01am
Well done.