mental nc

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Registered: 02-02-2011
mental nc
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Fri, 11-23-2012 - 12:26pm

So physical NC you totally have control over well for the most last besides the urge. The mental not so much and i think to be truly NC you need both. Heres what happens to me i start to think, my eyes well up, i say stop and it works for a few minutes rinse lather repeat. I'm stuck on alot of things right now things i don't even want to voice for fear of 2x4s. I don't know how people do this mental nc thing.
I hate this new board i can't go back and read peoples stories, hardly anyone is active, i wish there were archives. Clarity do you think we could do a what's your story how long has it been what did you do to fix you blah blah post?

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Registered: 11-26-2009
Fri, 11-23-2012 - 2:07pm
Hi lookingforhappy, I know what you are going through is tough, we all remember the pain of ending. It's so important not to rush your healing, it's so important to accept that this is what you are feeling right now, in a week you will feel something else or something the same only less or worse. It's a roller coaster ride with dark moments that seem to go on forever. It does get better, but I can't tell you how long it will take - gernerally people start feeling stronger at 3 months - empowered at 6 months, by a year you will be over him. I am nearly a year out, and now my A is over, I am struggling with the aftermath, not struggling with ending. It's a long journey, cry the tears you need to, scream and yell and get angry (somewhere alone) let it all out - don't push back the tear or bottle up your emotions for too long - this is not healthy. I know it's been slow here, and You are frustrated, but keep coming here and sharing - you might find just writing is therapeutic - and slowly but surely we are all coming back. I promise to be here more often - I have finally realized how much I need the people here in EAS. Stay strong And remember you are stronger than you think Love WGO
Every recovery is a kind of rebirth