Mere Minutes In

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Registered: 02-12-2011
Mere Minutes In
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Sat, 02-12-2011 - 2:34pm

I apologize for being such a lurker.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009
Sat, 02-12-2011 - 3:11pm

SA,

Welcome to endings, honey, and I am glad you finally made

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2010
Sat, 02-12-2011 - 3:22pm

Hi So Alone,

Well I read your whole story.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010
Sat, 02-12-2011 - 3:50pm

Welcome :)

When your confidence starts to wane, come here and read and post. It will get you through those first difficult weeks. It's up to you to stop being the cockroach that gets stepped on. Let him invest in the blow up doll, it's what he deserves.

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You are avoiding him for the wrong reasons. We say this all the time around here, and since you've been a lurker you've probably heard it: NC is a gift. Love yourself - you are worth it :)

Bodhi

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-12-2011
Sat, 02-12-2011 - 4:05pm

Thank you Iddy and MC.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-12-2011
Sat, 02-12-2011 - 4:10pm

Thanks Bodhi, you are right!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010
Sat, 02-12-2011 - 4:21pm

Trust me, he IS a tool. When you get the fog cleared and your radar back on track, you will go back and read your post and think "what the heck was I thinking!!!!" You will look at things so differently. But don't spend any time worrying about him. This is about YOU. I was lonely for a long, long time too. You said in your post to Iddy and MC that you are good at bargaining. I was REALLY good at bargaining - and that got me 7.5 years of pain and misery. Stay strong and NC so like you said, there won't be a "next time"

Bodhi

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Sat, 02-12-2011 - 6:08pm
Welcome SA it is wonderful that you have made the step to come out of lurkdom and share with the board:) I have spotty service but wanted to give you a hug and welcome you :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2010
Sat, 02-12-2011 - 8:49pm

SOalone,

Welcome to the board.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2009
Sun, 02-13-2011 - 11:46am

SoAlone,

You loneliness situation is going to ring a lot of bells with the MWs here; I know it does for me.