Missing Members ...?

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Registered: 09-28-2010
Missing Members ...?
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Sun, 10-17-2010 - 4:47pm

My EAS brothers and sisters,

Some of 'you' are still MIA and I am worried about you!

and I miss you!

If you've messed-up, bummed out or just plain struggling, please please come back.

Let us know how you're doing, okay?

You know who you are,:smileywink:

TU.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 10-17-2010 - 5:07pm

Agreed! Come and say hello! Please come back?

I know what it's like to feel like you've slipped up or don't have the energy. However, that's what landed me right back into the A waters - not coming back here when I knew I should have. Yes, the new board takes a bit of getting used to...but, please come and let us know you're okay?

----
'It may be that when we no longer know what to do,
We have come to our real work,
And that when we no longer know which way to go,
We have begun our real journey'
- Wendell Berry

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Registered: 04-01-2010
Sun, 10-17-2010 - 6:43pm

Hi TU,

I'm back for the third--and final--time. Haven't had mutual communication with him for two weeks, then went complete NC seven days ago after I sent him a final email, because I just really needed to say a few things. I wasn't looking for closure because I know that comes from within. I just needed to leave him with a few thoughts. It wasn't melodramatic. It just was what it was. Then I blocked him from everything. This, everyone, is the difference. I couldn't bring myself to block

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 04-23-2010
Sun, 10-17-2010 - 8:45pm

Those that read my blog know that last week, one day before my six months of NC, I failed. I failed because I wasn't prepared enough.

Since that time I have not been much good, going through mood swings, back and forth with my thoughts and emotions.

I have taken two days off the computer and grabbed my wife and left on a color tour and a last look of fall's last beauty. It also helped relax me and give me time away from temptation.

I have reset my NoContact timer on my phone and will start again........one hour at a time.

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

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Registered: 09-28-2010
Sun, 10-17-2010 - 9:39pm
Hey Rather,

Oh boy, just caught up with what's been going on for you on your blog. I am sad to hear that you've been struggling once again: that toxic place of living in complete and utter uncertainty and risking it all.

Other than going NC, what's your plan? I mean, 6 months out Rather ... what's going to be different for you this time? I'd say she's gotta go from your employment or you can never ever again have any contact with her - business or otherwise. No more calls at home.

Deep sigh. I am sad for you Rather and I feel your pain. For many of us it is our worst fear come true. So, I ask of you, what lessons can we learn from your mistake - other than there is NO being polite! You wouldn't be polite to a robber coming in your house to rob you - why would you be polite and welcome back into your life someone who is going to rob your present and your future?

((hugs))

TU.
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Registered: 03-17-2010
Sun, 10-17-2010 - 11:51pm

Hi TU! :)

I'm still present but not active in written/oral exam (posting) but i'm very very

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Registered: 04-11-2010
Mon, 10-18-2010 - 5:01am

Hi all

Im here. Not posting as much because the new format sorta annoys me and Im trying to stay off the computer at night time.

But Im hangng in. NC for about 10 days now. Its soooooo hard but Im getting there. Definately dont think of him every hour- just most :). Plus I am fantasising a lot about the 'good old days' (gag) when we were really into it.

But Im re-reading my affirmations every day and reading here every night. Its just sooooooo hard :(

Iggyx

You are what you consistently do