MM has new OW calling my house, HELP!!!

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Registered: 03-03-2005
MM has new OW calling my house, HELP!!!
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Fri, 12-18-2009 - 11:35pm

As posted earlier, i was having a great day....I came home to a vm, from MM, exap (for those of you who do not know my story, I did not know MM was M until 4 months into relationship. I am 2 weeks NC. The vm was from MM new other women I guess. Accusing me of being a stalker and going on and on about how sad I am, she knew an awful lot about me. She left a very long vm. He has her very fooled. She has no idea that he is indeed married. Said a lot of mean things about me. I do not even care about that....she has a devil she is dealing with and will get hers...

I want to call her back and handle this. She left several messages. I do not know what prompted this. But either way, its annoying me, I do not plan on getting in a shouting match, I just want her to tell her that her prize is married and she can google it for verification. i am very skilled at being short and to the point....he has already thrown me under the bus, he told her i am crazy etc...but she is calling me and insulting me. she got my number from him.

I am coming to this board for you all to stop me, i know this would be a major ego stroke for him, but i am not going to fight over him. not at all. apparently my NC is getting to him. but i am really on the brink of returning her call and letting her know how i feel.

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Registered: 03-22-2009
Fri, 12-18-2009 - 11:56pm

I think you already know the answer to this one...don't call. It'll only make you look bad. Keep ignoring and eventually they'll go away. Also, call your phone company and have them put a block on that phone number due to harassing phone calls. If you even start to think about returning these calls, remember this saying: "Never wrestle with a pig. You'll both get dirty but only the pig will enjoy it."

good luck,
ND

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Sat, 12-19-2009 - 8:40am

Let it go, Sienna. Let it all go. Let these people stew in their own toxic waste.


(((Hugs)))

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 07-24-2005
Sat, 12-19-2009 - 2:00pm

Kudos, Sienna, for coming here and seeking advice.


I echo the others's advice.


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Registered: 09-25-2006
Sat, 12-19-2009 - 2:27pm

I can't even imagine making a call like she did.

Onward and upward.
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Registered: 09-29-2009
Sat, 12-19-2009 - 6:59pm
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Edited 1/3/2010 3:16 pm ET by classy01
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Registered: 12-04-2009
Sat, 12-19-2009 - 7:06pm
WOW is all I have to say. Really who does that. I would not respond to that at all. That is exactly what they want. I guess your silence is killing them :) Keep it up.
Time heals all wounds, unless you pick at them. --Shawn Alexander
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Registered: 03-03-2005
Sat, 12-19-2009 - 7:06pm

another good quote someone wrote on here

When you pull back another layer on MM, you find a really insecure man who has to have the adoration of not just one woman, but multiple. He can't stand to be alone. Weak. Insecure. Morally bankrupt.