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| Thu, 07-22-2010 - 11:44am |
Mom,
You replied in another post that you are a M trying to rebuild your M with your H and that you didn't feel like your presence on this board was "well accepted". I know of only two or three reasons why someone's presence here is not well received, and being M'd and rebuilding is not one of them; probably more than half of the posters here describe themselves as such. So, could you please let us know why you feel the way you do so that we can examine the causes of your discomfort and improve your experience, if possible.
Dee

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Thanks for asking dee. I absolutely love your posts and your strength BTW. I received a reply on one of my posts which told be because I was a BS as well as an x-cheater that I should be on the BS board. I don't feel comfortable on the BS board because heck, I cheated also. When I was ending my A this board literally saved my life and sanity. I didn't post back then but I read until my eyeballs almost fell out.
Thank you, Mom.
Ah, well. A BS cum OW ender certainly belongs here as much as any other ender. I'm sorry that one experience affected you so much. I hope that you will let that post roll off your back and realize that your presence here is welcome.
Best,
Dee
I know you are on the BS board. I know you were one of the ones who got peeved when a EASer started a thread on the BS board, which I understood why;). When I was here years ago, I was one who did read the BS board to get a new insight but would NEVER post there.
If you are a WS, you belong here and have the right to post. I just started helping out here so I am not too familiar with you. I have not turned in any of your posts. Yes I do that if the post is vile or mean which is a clear violation of the TOS. I know the other boards would do the same. Glad you are getting your life back, Mom.
MOM,
Dont you go anywhere! I like your posts. You can be a little cut throat but you call it like you see it. I need and like that. Some people are too sensitive. We are not always all going to be all lovey and dovey and hold one another's hand and say it will be ok when we are not doing what we are supposed to. We all have our ways about how we react to posts. I think others may not want to hear the truth at times and that is too bad that they do not see the time we take to write shows that we care and are trying to help.
I think that may be part of the issue...people are intimidated by people like your self.
Stay around. We need you. You remind me of Clarity. She is a vet and unfortunately is gone. She was so much like you. Read her posts, they were great and she was a pilar around here. If you like Dee, you will enjoy Clarity. She hold nothing back, Dee is just too funny and does the same.
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
I agree with the others - please come back to posting Mom.
One of the things I really can't stand about some of the other boards, is the notion that support seems to mean complete collusion with any and all choices - no matter the potential consequences and (almost always) predictable harmful outcomes. Any challenges to posters thoughts/feelings/actions are discouraged and posters insulted for their lack of 'support'. Please, it's like watching someone set themselves on fire while you hold the hose watching them burn.
Support DOES NOT MEAN that I will sit silently by and say 'good for you' 'go for it' 'make it fun while it lasts' when I feel deep down inside that you're going to end up hurt. Support does not mean that just because I am too afraid to confront & be accountable for my own crap decisions I will withhold advice or 'support' from others when I feel their actions hurtful to themselves and others.
My 2cents anyway (-:
TU.
LC/NC since April 14, 2010
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Hey Mom,
Sorry to hear you had an unpleasant experience here.
I don't mind you posting here either, I think that your point of view is helplful. I would just say to be careful with us newbies - I was only a few days old here, and your post to me was very harsh. I didn't take it constructively at all and you slammed me for feeling like my XAP was cheating on me with his W. You have slightly different feelings than we do because you've seen it from both sides. I would just say to be careful which side you are posting on when you are here. :)
Bodhi
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