TO MOM_MEANDMYBOYS

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Registered: 10-20-2009
TO MOM_MEANDMYBOYS
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Wed, 08-11-2010 - 12:46pm

Mom,


BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
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Registered: 01-23-2010
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 2:33pm
My email address is mom_meandmyboys@hotmail.com. I would be glad to share with you what I have learned in T. I know my posts are filled with "my T said" but I have never felt so complete since entering T. I have learned to see the first signs of when I begin to shut ppl out and I have learned ways to stop being afraid of being hurt and communicate with my DH and others before I completely shut them out. There are signs and I have learned to pick up on them and stop. Part of the reason we do that is being we are passive/aggressive (google it and I will bet that you will find that the definition suits you as well). We use this as a coping mechanism. Usually we have experienced some kind of trauma. For me, I had a horrific childhood situation (abuse) which left me pretty skrewed up. It's hard to change your behavior but you can do it. I have learned to address situations and express myself when something bothers me immediately and not shut down. Please feel to email me. I actually sent my DH an email a couple of weeks ago telling him how much I love and appreciate him. This was really hard for me because I am embarrassed to admit that I hadn't even told my DH I love him in years. I noticed my DH had it in his wallet and one day he took it out, read it and smiled. He didn't even know I saw him but it felt really good to not be such a cold person as I use to be.
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Registered: 10-20-2009
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 3:35pm

Thank you!!

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3